It's a big red flag for me when a guy tells me he doesn't use hookup apps at all. It makes me think he's insecure with his sexuality and maybe a bad lay or maybe emotionally needy or even mentally unstable. It doesn't mean he's any of these things. It means my guard is up.

I generally want to know something about a guy I'm going to hook up with, date or whatever. Apps allow me the space to do that.

On an app it takes longer to get to know the guy and decide you like the person and actually meet up. Whereas in person you just cut all of the getting to know each other part out in many cases and you end up sleeping around with someone you know nothing about.

My friends who claim to not use hookup apps have generally been celibate or living with their Xbfs thinking that a man is going to wait 6 months while they decide if they want to have sex and date the guy or not.

Then later on you learn they are on "dating" sites and not apps. LOL wut? They were the ones making a big deal out of not using any apps.

"Mentally unstable"

I don't, just like I don't judge people if they do have hookup apps.

I don't use hookup apps and I don't judge people.

No. I don't care if you do or don't.

Like, finding a match is so hard. Who cares how it's done?

Not necessarily. I do judge people who judge people for using them, though.

Girl it's usually the other way around.

Or maybe he isn't into this insane hyper hook-up culture these apps encourage?

Some people are like that. Doesn't mean he's insecure but for the fact that almost every hook-up app is full of shallow people.

No why would I

Im sorry but in my experience on average it takes me way longer to hook up with a guy via an app than it does in person.

If Im walking down the street or at the gym or at the bar/club picking up a guy and hooking up is far and away easier.

Im generally not a meet you and hook up now type of guy...but some of the guys are really HOT and hard to resist!

lol no...I just noticed its easier to meet guys at a club or on facebook then dating apps I deleted them all...I'm better then that now.

No, I don't use it and I don't judge others who don't use it either. Not everyone wants to have sex with random people.

Nope. Guys on apps like Grindr can be disgusting and shady, and into certain lifestyles that are centered around um sex - which is disgusting.

In fact I think I judge people who use hookup apps religiously and think there's something wrong with not wanting to meet someone on an app designed for sex. Besides, some people don't need an app to ****. Poor OP.

ok um

^I don't know how I feel about guys on FB propositioning me for sex....or people who are thirsty and want to hook up instantaneously.

I don't know anybody that uses hook up apps.

POC may not use it since it's a breeding ground for racism

Exactly !

Sis get help