Hi guys I'm currently trying to get over someone but it seems like everyday its harder to get over him. Its been two months since we stopped hanging out and he randomly messages me random stuff I guess he doesn't want to completely cut me off otherwise he wouldn't even message but that's it. We haven't hung out in a while he's older he's 35 and a successful guy with a great job and good $ and I loved hanging out with him. You'd think after two moths I'd be ok but still upsets me everytime I do something that reminds me of him or something that we used to do together.

I feel sad everyday gorls.. I went out with my friends and I forget about a bit but still reminded me of the times we hung out. Last Friday night I went to Austin and got drunk and messaged him he said we should hang out Monday.. then Monday he sent me a message saying he forgot he had plans with his friends from college. I didn't even reply it just made me really upset and angry at myself for keep trying to see him. Last night I went out and got drunk cuz of my friends bday and I messaged him it was a long message telling him how I felt and it'd be better if he'd just tell me I don't ever wanna see you again to make it easier so I can officially move on. It felt good to get it out my chest and thought I'd feel better today.. he read like at 3 am but didn't get a response lol. I feel depressed never felt like this before I got so used to him hanging out everyday and spending the nights over at his place of him at mine. How do y'all get over people?

Will time be the ultimate truth teller? what can I do to feel better?

Block him.

Listen to Since U Been Gone by Kelly clarkson.

The best way to get over someone is to get under another.

Find a hobby or focus more on school/job. Keep yourself distracted.

Lol I've tried didn't work. I even went out with someone else but just made it worse comparing it to the other one

Listen to Rolex by the queen of rap, Iggy Azalea.

Not by asking ATRL, that's for damn sure!

There's more to life than love (as in relationships).

Wait for Joanne.. listen to it to get over him

It takes time

The best way is def. not trying to get over him by getting along with another. Also, you shouldn't avoid the "bad" feelings by doing all the time different things to keep it off your mind. You need to stay alone for some time and deal with it. For example, don't be afraid to stay home and listen to some music. You can express what you feel by writing things, drawing and talking about it. You need to avoid being all the time with people just because you think it will help you forget it. Once you let this feeling "control" you, it will start fading more quickly rather than avoiding it. Since you are single now, it's time to look for yourself once again. Try starting doing things about yourself and make some goals for you. Think about all the things you haven't done in a while because of a relationship and start trying about them. I wish you the best and I hope my advice will help you!

Thanks sis this was great advice I think that's what I've been doing and when I'm with my friends it goes away but then when I try to be home I'm just thinking what we would be doing. He's half black half latino and just recently started learning Spanish(hes basically fluent now surprisingly) and I used to help him with it so when I hear some stuff he used to say it just depresses me. I think the fact "I'm trying" to forget about it makes it worse like you said I haven't even told my friends about this cuz I don't want them worrying about me feeling depressed or anything.

Buy and Stream Superlove by Tinashe. It'll help you get over him fast

Wait not my good sis cosstass getting banned after giving me that amazing advice this song makes me feel good.

-Try to play sport/work out to air out your mind and getting away from the negative energy.
-The guy you were with was just a "training" for what's going to come next. So don't have any regrets... Think of it as a videogame, you passed the level and you wouldn't be sad but happy if life was as depersonalized as a videogame. Of course, it isn't but try to shift your perspective in that direction and you'll see some changes.
- Never miss an opprtunity to have a good time because it's now you'll need it the most (but don't become a trainwreck either).
- Be happy for the good times with that person, wish him well, wish you well and let go.
- Don't hold on to the angerness because the only person it'll hurt is YOU.
- Remember the universe is infinite and, even if this guy is pretty much your world right now, there is someone out there for you. Someone so great that when you'll be with him you'll think "I can't believe I got so worked up with that old ex of mine!!!".

I hope it wasn't too blunt. Life taught me separation and ending always meant a new beginning. Go through your pain but remember there's beautiful things ahead for you. Everything is cyclical.

No sis thanks!! I needed that!! I've been going to the gym more and staying there longer lately. I know it wont be forever I just never been in this situation I was always the one that was never affected by ending relationships UNITIL NOW. I actually sent him that long ass text yesterday and told him I wish him the best and if he ever needs anything don't hesitate to hit me up. Its been one day but I think I needed to send him that message to make me feel better like I'm officially making myself to move on after telling him that.

That's great. Closure is important when you need to turn the page!

And it's interesting you're the one more affected this time around, maybe it means you're being more open with your feelings? Yes, you're in a painful position but you should be proud of you for taking the risk to really love with all your heart, it has probably transformed you for the better, even if you don't realize it right now.

hang out, have fun, do your favorite things


it takes time but you will get over it

**** his best friend and make em yes men
Get a dick pic and then you press send
And send a red heart and send a kissy face
And tell him that his friend love how your bussy taste