Not only are we few in numbers compared to heterosexuals, So that alone makes finding a partner more difficult. But, I feel majority of gays are just looking to hookup and not relationship, And the ones who aren't looking for a relationship are EXTREMLY picky I just feel like if you’re not a muscular white guy/white Latino dating is hard in the gay world what do you gays think? Do have you similar experiences?

It's better to be single than in bad company.

I hate myself cause for the longest time I always wanted to be in a relation - but literally last week I suddenly realized that wasn't what I want any more.

I'm sick of idiotic, un-clean "420 friendly" gays. Simply wanting smart, tall and handsome (and thick) is apparently beyond comprehension.

true until you your single and become a gay old cat man

I've never had a BF and I don't think I ever will. Although I'm sexually attracted to men, I'm not attracted to them romantically and a lot of gay men tend to come of as extremely shallow and thristy. I've never and don't think I ever will knock boots with a dude but I've hooked up a couple times and literally all of them just seemed to want to get it in IMIDDIATELY

I'm not saying all gay men are like this but it's a very common archetype they fit.

We're definitely at a disadvantage but I feel like if you live in a populous area that's gay-friendly, you have a good circle of friends and social network, and/or you know how to use the apps well, you'll find somebody. You just can't lose hope. The super picky guys who only want to date those who look like themselves or models aren't the kind of guys you'd want, anyway. They'd always be expecting you to work to fit this mold of their ideal guy, instead of simply seeing you for who you are.

We need to have an ongoing dating/hook-up thread for us hennies to congregate in to share stories and advice.

I'm also someone who loves to have a more leading/controlling role in a relationship and I find it easier with women. On top of that women tend to be more put together, softer and curvier (more ****able) and their differences (physically, emotionally, psychologically etc.) are a bonus to me.

I'm not knocking on gays but this what we bi's sometimes go through

I basically love men and women for different things.

This

That's true. I live in a VERY conservative aera and i'm not out that's why I wanna move to west coast because it's way more liber gay friendly there. And YASS I love your idea, you should mthat thread sis

I'm going through pretty much the same thing. For the longest time I felt so empty being single, thinking that finding a "relationship" would make me feel whole again. But now I'm finally realizing that I don't really even want a boyfriend anymore. I have so much going for me and my life right now that I really need to be able to focus on myself for to make the most of these opportunities. Why do I need someone else to carry around with me? I'm kind of liking not having to deal with anybody besides myself. If only being single somehow came with a steady supply of good sex and affection...

Maybe you are the problem. What do you have to offer in the relationship?

Well there you go, sis. People can't find you if you're still hiding in the closet. And don't even try that whole "discreet" mess. It's unfair for yourself and your potential suitors.

I actually have this good friend who is gay and we tried to date, but it didn't work out but we still cuddle and play - but both want nothing further (I'm sure he'd be my boyfriend if I offered) but we've talked about this all very frankly, and I just don't want to his boyfriend cause I don't feel "romantically" connected to him. But I get some affection.

The good sex on the other hand... Welp, still on the lookout.

But yeah, I've just gone off it - I want to go travelling next year. I don't want some free-riding gay leeching off my self-discovery and world-discovery time.

well I have been on grindr and other gay "Dating" sites/apps. I wanted to get involved with the LGBT clubs and organizations at my school but there's a high chance of me getting outed. Like mofo, would snitch on me if I do ANYTHING gay related in real life. But that's a whole another thread.... basically i'm just working with what I got with

i'm a college student who's actually go somewhere in my life. I'm a good person but I guess the only thing I can't offer is white skin

Hmmmm... None of this is true. If anything there is the problem of sifting through too many partners and each one takes time away from the people you should be around. So count your blessings that you don't have to sift through a gazillion guys to get through to the right ones. I know from experience it's not that much fun.

**** them!

College is not the time to be looking for relationships. If you got what you seek now you'd regret it. I know I did. I was a terrible boyfriend and so was he.

Oop. Well tbh unless you already "somewhere in life" don't bother with relationships unless you find a fellow college student who understands the journey.

I feel you tho non college people don't understand the pressure you're under

Girl, honestly, you're probably never going to find love if you're afraid to show the world who you are. The first step for you should be coming out of the closet, and if that's not an option for you right now, then move somewhere where you can be openly gay.