Hypothetically if you find "the love of your life" and stay in love with that person into old age, would you want to die first or them to die first?

I think I would prefer them to die first, as long as I don't have too much time left after that. I imagine myself spending the last moments of my life alone, reflecting, preparing, etc. and I would want to be there with them when they die.

The main argument for wanting to die first yourself would be that you never have to lose the love of your life. Some people would consider that selfish though. It's more about your own interest than the interest of your lover. But oddly enough, my choice to have them die first is selfish for me. I don't like not having the closure of seeing every last thing my lover will do in their life. What if they sleep with someone else or move on from me?

i rather die first tbh

I already gave up on life in 2012 so I'd go first tbh

Same, that's the other part of it for me. We are born alone and we die alone... I just think I would want to spend the last moments of my life, at least the last year, mostly alone and reflecting on the surreal nature of even being alive at all.

edit: oh you edited your answer to say you'd rather die first.

I'd much rather die first

I would rather die first too.

Or it could be like The Notebook... Either way

If both are old, sleeping with somebody else should be the less of their worries.

Anyway, it' be hard for either, if he dies first I may end up getting depressed and the same for my love so, die at same time

Me first I couldn't stand watching them die

me first. it would be really hard to deal with the loss of a lover especially when you're older cause its hard to find someone to love you again because ageism

Me first. I don't like the idea of getting old anyways so..

Not sure if I'm surprised or not that almost everyone says they would rather die first... Y'all don't think that's a bit selfish? I was hesitant to call it that, but now that I see the general trend I'm starting to think maybe it is.. If you really loved them, and you know being alone is scary, why would you want them to go through that?

I think I have a different attitude toward life and death than most people my age, but really being alone isn't the worst thing ever especially if you're going to die soon anyway. If you do think it's awful to be alone in your final moments though, why would you wish that on your "soul mate"?

They can die first.

Along with all my loved ones and my faves. I don't wanna die

omg im sorry lol! i thought the title was something different
but that too, i just wouldnt want anyone to put up with me tbh. i rather die alone, peacefully (or not peacefully, i dont mind)

I think I wanna die first.

Myself. I couldn't stand losing Harry, I would legit be lost in life without his light

I might consider them the love of my life, but they might of just settled for me and since I couldn't be sure whether or not they settled they can die first.

I found the love of my life and he died of cancer a couple years ago.

RIP my lover.