So I'm staying in dorms again at my new college I'm transferring to since I don't know anyone there and want some chance at social integration. I wasn't very social at my last college since I hated it there and the people on my floor were annoying but I want to really try this time since Northwestern has always been my dream school. On top of being non-social I also didn't tell anyone at my last college that I'm bi; IRL I'm not out to anyone so I just have no idea how to bring it up in conversation

Anyway so my new roommate emailed me a few days ago and I've been waiting to email back because I'm not sure what to say. On one hand, I feel like it would help me to just briefly mention it in my email like "Btw just to put it out there, I'm bi in case that would make you uncomfortable". That way it would be over with before even meeting him in person and if he brought it up again it'd be a little easier to talk about. On the other hand, I don't want him to have a preconception like we can't be friends because of that or like it'll make it awkward. I intended to tell my first roommate after the first couple weeks (he actually low-key tried bringing it up [which I made a blog about] by mentioning "experimenting" when I first met him but it totally flew over my head dd) but never did.

I guess I'm like 80% sure that I'm just going to mention it in my email to get it over with but I want to hear yalls opinions since most of you have probably been through this before.

If you're a sophomore or a freshman, yes.

It's none of their business, just do you. It's not like they'd confess to you that they're straight or whatever.

i would say no until you're sure he's not awful.

You don't need to tell anyone anything, just live your life. If you become friends and you feel like sharing personal details than sure, but there's no need to divulge a stranger.

People need to learn to accept diversity, and they don't deserve special warning tags for when it happens.

I haven't been through what you did but I get your anti social part a bit
It's up to you and how honest you want to be

Aren't you going to like Northwestern or Michigan? I'm pretty sure the g0rls up there will be studying too hard to give a **** about this nonexistent dilemma. But if you're just dying to tell him, just do like a 20 facts about me response

Mentioning it in an email before you even meet him? NNnnnnnn sounds like a mistake.

Don't tell them your sexuality unless they ask you.

This what happens when you have too much self-importance. If I were your roommate and your suddenly told me your bi/gay, i would be like "okay, who cares?".

No need. If you were straight, would tou feel compelled to do so? Think of equality hun

Honestly, he doesn't need to know that if you don't feel comfortable mentioning it over email alone.

Plus I'd wait and see how he's like in person for a month. Easier to see the kind of person he is in general and when the subject comes around to LGBT issues. That will tell you if it is safe to tell him.

This.

If you really feel like disclosing it then fine but you don't owe them anything.