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Discussion: Have you ever experinced Racism in the LGBT community?
Member Since: 8/7/2015
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No. Then again, I usually only date within my race. I can't say I've put myself in a position, intentionally or unintentionally, to go through that experience. I've never been on one of those dating/hook-up apps, I've rarely, if ever, pursued someone outside of my race, let alone made the first move on someone. So on and so forth.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Notorious MINAJ
I'm trying to find the logic in this post and I can't. Asking for a picture is racist? And because they have no pic thats them baiting you? Umkay.
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No, they think I'm only messaging them under the impression I think they're white because they claim they are. When it's not. They lie to try to bait me into responding and "exposing my racism" if I do ask for a picture. It's petty and dumb lol but whatever it's nbd, aaliyah diana is right. I just wish guys would love themselves no matter what color
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by JonginBey
No. Then again, I usually only date within my race. I can't say I've put myself in a position, intentionally or unintentionally, to go through that experience. I've never been on one of those dating/hook-up apps, I've rarely, if ever, pursued someone outside of my race, let alone made the first move on someone. So on and so forth.
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I have a hard time finding other POC guys because the aera I live in is predominatly white and why don't you try and pursue other guys of different race sis?
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
Posts: 9,806
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Originally posted by AALIYAH DANA
I know this black guy who says he only dates white guys and i'm just like how can you not love your people? you were born from black love and if your dad had the same mindset you would not be here. Eurocentric beauty standards and colorism are rooted in all minority communities but especially the black community. It's like, we don't feel like we're good enough unless we have a white twink on our hip or surrounded by white people
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The things I like in a guy aren't based on color, body type, or age so literally anyone of any color, body type, or age (27+) can get with me.
1. treat me well
1. sexually compatible (i.e. a top)
2. I have to believe you are smart
3. affectionate
4. a generally nice person in person
5. attractive
6. nice hands/big D
8. etc...
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
Posts: 20,947
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Originally posted by DAP
Mostly backhanded compliments like "you're not like most black guys" and "you're cute for a black dude"
But one time I had one dude on Grindr pm me " you got a jungle booty that I need to tame".
That was IT for me on Grindr. You all can have that pit
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OT: I don't think so, people are very low key about it here. I mean, on Grindr I don't see people putting ''no rice (must be because we have literally no Asians around here ), no blacks etc''
Of course I have sometimes felt that dating would be exponentially easier if I was white, but thankfully I don't let it get to me anymore.
I do see a LOT of ''no fems'' and ''outta the scene'' it's not even funny. But most people are there for hook up's anyway, and while that obviously is no excuse for prejudice, they will get it with whom they want to at the end of the day, so it doesn't bother me that much.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by AALIYAH DANA
I have a hard time finding other POC guys because the aera I live in is predominatly white and why don't you try and pursue other guys of different race sis?
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Because I love my fellow black guys I dated a white guy and a biracial guy (black and white) before, but overall, I've always gravitated towards my own people. Not only that, but I grew up in South Central L.A., which is predominantly POC, so it just happens naturally.
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by AALIYAH DANA
I know this black guy who says he only dates white guys and i'm just like how can you not love your people? you were born from black love and if your dad had the same mindset you would not be here. Eurocentric beauty standards and colorism are rooted in all minority communities but especially the black community. It's like, we don't feel like we're good enough unless we have a white twink on our hip or surrounded by white people
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The things I like in a guy aren't based on color, body type, or age so literally anyone of any color, body type, or age can get with me.
1. treat me well
1. sexually compatible (i.e. a top)
2. I have to believe you are smart
3. affectionate
4. a generally nice person in person
5. attractive
6. nice hands/big D
7. nice face
8. etc...
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Member Since: 9/1/2011
Posts: 4,190
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Here in Mexico there's more classism than racism, so no.
But in Montreal an old man on Grindr told me that I looked like Justin Bibier with a stupid Mexican touch don't know if that counts. I don't even look anything like JB but he was mad because I ignored him
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by AMIT
OT: I don't think so, people are very low key about it here. I mean, on Grindr I don't see people putting ''no rice (must be because we have literally no Asians around here ), no blacks etc''
Of course I have sometimes felt that dating would be exponentially easier if I was white, but thankfully I don't let it get to me anymore.
I do see a LOT of ''no fems'' and ''outta the scene'' it's not even funny. But most people are there for hook up's anyway, and while that obviously is no excuse for prejudice, they will get it with whom they want to at the end of the day, so it doesn't bother me that much.
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!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! why is it like that though?
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by JonginBey
Because I love my fellow black guys I dated a white guy and a biracial guy (black and white) before, but overall, I've always gravitated towards my own people. Not only that, but I grew up in South Central L.A., which is predominantly POC, so it just happens naturally.
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mess I thought you were Asian
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by AALIYAH DANA
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! why is it like that though?
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The data shows that white guys get more hits. Look at scruff most popular area of the main storyboard. I posted an article earlier in the thread that said whit guys get 20% more messages on average than black guys.
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Member Since: 6/30/2012
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Yes.
"Only black & Latino's, no patsy white boi's"
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Member Since: 8/1/2012
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Nah but my boyfriend has (he's black).
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by Adonis
The data shows that white guys get more hits. Look at scruff most popular area of the main storyboard. I posted an article earlier in the thread that said whit guys get 20% more messages on average than black guys.
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Data from OkCupid in 2009 showed that gay black men received 20% fewer responses to messages than non-blacks. For white gay men on the site, 43% said they would strongly prefer to date someone of the same racial background as them. For black gay men, just 6% expressed such a preference.
don't you find it odd that almost half the whites prefer their own race while less than 6% blacks did I think it's mostly due to the imagery in the gay community where all you see in gay media is white guys.
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Member Since: 8/7/2015
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Originally posted by AALIYAH DANA
mess I thought you were Asian
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The amount of times someone has said that to me on here Can't I just like K-Pop without having to be the same race as the artists?
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Member Since: 11/25/2011
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But white guy dicks are big tho.
Asians on the other hand... well. Let me just say the hives I got from that antibiotic allergy were bigger.
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by AALIYAH DANA
Data from OkCupid in 2009 showed that gay black men received 20% fewer responses to messages than non-blacks. For white gay men on the site, 43% said they would strongly prefer to date someone of the same racial background as them. For black gay men, just 6% expressed such a preference.
don't you find it odd that almost half the whites prefer their own race while less than 6% blacks did I think it's mostly due to the imagery in the gay community where all you see in gay media is white guys.
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The gay media glorifies white guys over anything else. They don't praise or embrace black culture in the gay community until they need some ideas to steal for use in their newest fashion line. When it was just black guys wearing high top sneakers and basketball shoes I used to get so much flack for it from other non black gays.
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Member Since: 11/27/2010
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Originally posted by BeyoncéFlicks
But white guy dicks are big tho.
Asians on the other hand... well. Let me just say the hives I got from that antibiotic allergy were bigger.
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Thats not all true though. I used to mess around with a few asian guys that had massive pieces.
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Member Since: 5/27/2016
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Originally posted by BeyoncéFlicks
But white guy dicks are big tho.
Asians on the other hand... well. Let me just say the hives I got from that antibiotic allergy were bigger.
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what does this have to do with the thread
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