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Discussion: Archived: Random Thoughts (#5)
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@Legit
Are you in college? If so, I personally know someone who doesn't really go home that much because he's from Texas, and, you know...
Anyway, talk to your friends and I'm sure they can help you out. If it feels weird going home during the holidays, go with a friend instead.
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Member Since: 3/14/2013
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Originally posted by Legit
I texted my mom to come downstairs so I can speak to her before I told my dad -- thinking that she'd maybe have my back during the ordeal. We sat down and talked, she cried, I cried, we both just sort of cried. Not really sure why she was crying, disappointment? I told her not to tell my dad until I came up in about 20 minutes. About ten minutes later my dad came downstairs with my mom. Bitch.
The first thing he said to me was that I should feel bad for causing so much pain and making my mom cry like that. He rushed next to me and knocked over my things, my pencils, my souvenirs. He screamed and told me that all these things were his and that they could all be gone in a moment if I brought this up again. Finished it off with a nice backhand to the head, literally felt my brain bounce from side to side. Never felt so lame in my life.
Sorry for any spelling mistakes. I'm basically just crawled up in my room, not really sure where to go from here.
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I'm so sorry that you had to go through all that.
I hate people like that; they're the most self-absorbed people anywhere. Acting like they're the victims when they're so unaware.
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Almost done with this list. 
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I will not speak because I am enraged and will say something rather controversial.
Know you have us here!
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My mom is such a puppet sometimes. It's either she's on my side or she completely plays snake and backstabs me. It's not a very nice feeling.
Didn't notice how hard I was clenching my jaw until I started writing this. I have all these weird nerves in me right now. How am I going to sleep properly tonight or every other night after this one. Ugh.
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Member Since: 5/25/2010
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Originally posted by Legit
I texted my mom to come downstairs so I can speak to her before I told my dad -- thinking that she'd maybe have my back during the ordeal. We sat down and talked, she cried, I cried, we both just sort of cried. Not really sure why she was crying, disappointment? I told her not to tell my dad until I came up in about 20 minutes. About ten minutes later my dad came downstairs with my mom. Bitch.
The first thing he said to me was that I should feel bad for causing so much pain and making my mom cry like that. He rushed next to me and knocked over my things, my pencils, my souvenirs. He screamed and told me that all these things were his and that they could all be gone in a moment if I brought this up again. Finished it off with a nice backhand to the head, literally felt my brain bounce from side to side. Never felt so lame in my life.
Sorry for any spelling mistakes. I'm basically just crawled up in my room, not really sure where to go from here.
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Well, first of all, it's not the end of the world, so take a deep breath and don't panic, kid. Are you in school? High school? College? Your best course of action is to do really well in school, get a scholarship, and move out (after your graduate). I'd advise not bringing it up again—pretend like it never happened (which is what your parents are probably doing) and just do really well in your classes and get a job (if you don't already have one) and save every penny you can and be prepared to move out when you're 18. Before you move out, you can tell them how much you love them and and this is who you are, et cetera.
...Vin
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Originally posted by Legit
I texted my mom to come downstairs so I can speak to her before I told my dad -- thinking that she'd maybe have my back during the ordeal. We sat down and talked, she cried, I cried, we both just sort of cried. Not really sure why she was crying, disappointment? I told her not to tell my dad until I came up in about 20 minutes. About ten minutes later my dad came downstairs with my mom. Bitch.
The first thing he said to me was that I should feel bad for causing so much pain and making my mom cry like that. He rushed next to me and knocked over my things, my pencils, my souvenirs. He screamed and told me that all these things were his and that they could all be gone in a moment if I brought this up again. Finished it off with a nice backhand to the head, literally felt my brain bounce from side to side. Never felt so lame in my life.
Sorry for any spelling mistakes. I'm basically just crawled up in my room, not really sure where to go from here.
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omg i'm sO sorry to here this happen to you 
PLEASE if you ever need to talk you know where to reach me.
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Originally posted by Vin
Well, first of all, it's not the end of the world, so take a deep breath and don't panic, kid. Are you in school? High school? College? Your best course of action is to do really well in school, get a scholarship, and move out (after your graduate). I'd advise not bringing it up again—pretend like it never happened (which is what your parents are probably doing) and just do really well in your classes and get a job (if you don't already have one) and save every penny you can and be prepared to move out when you're 18. Before you move out, you can tell them how much you love them and and this is who you are, et cetera.
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yeah this. Don't bring it up if it risks your safety.
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Originally posted by Vin
Well, first of all, it's not the end of the world, so take a deep breath and don't panic, kid. Are you in school? High school? College? Your best course of action is to do really well in school, get a scholarship, and move out (after your graduate). I'd advise not bringing it up again—pretend like it never happened (which is what your parents are probably doing) and just do really well in your classes and get a job (if you don't already have one) and save every penny you can and be prepared to move out when you're 18. Before you move out, you can tell them how much you love them and and this is who you are, et cetera.
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This is so ****ed up. Have to hurry up and move out just because you're gay. I'm so damn lucky.
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isn't it weird how most people still have a hard time coming out to their parents
I mean I've heard a lot of stories of people being scared of being rejected, disowned, etc.
I expected better from people from "developed" countries, in every aspect of the word.
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Have you ever read someone's post and just wanted to punch them in the face?
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Originally posted by Click Clack
Have you ever read someone's post and just wanted to punch them in the face?
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I just read one
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Originally posted by Legit
I texted my mom to come downstairs so I can speak to her before I told my dad -- thinking that she'd maybe have my back during the ordeal. We sat down and talked, she cried, I cried, we both just sort of cried. Not really sure why she was crying, disappointment? I told her not to tell my dad until I came up in about 20 minutes. About ten minutes later my dad came downstairs with my mom. Bitch.
The first thing he said to me was that I should feel bad for causing so much pain and making my mom cry like that. He rushed next to me and knocked over my things, my pencils, my souvenirs. He screamed and told me that all these things were his and that they could all be gone in a moment if I brought this up again. Finished it off with a nice backhand to the head, literally felt my brain bounce from side to side. Never felt so lame in my life.
Sorry for any spelling mistakes. I'm basically just crawled up in my room, not really sure where to go from here.
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omg love, im so sorry your going through that. coming out can always lead to different experiences but never feel like its your fault. you thought it was the right time and never blame yourself from thinking otherwise. you came with good intentions and while it sucks that your parents did all of this (trust me, i know), dont let this bring your whole world down. you seem like a really nice, great person so i know you can rise above this. focus on finishing school and doing your best (alot of what Vin. said) and never punish yourself for any of this. you deserve greatness and regardless of what your parents think, you will achieve it.
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Originally posted by Buddy!
I just read one
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Originally posted by Buddy!
I just read one
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okthen spill Anything
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Originally posted by Legit
I texted my mom to come downstairs so I can speak to her before I told my dad -- thinking that she'd maybe have my back during the ordeal. We sat down and talked, she cried, I cried, we both just sort of cried. Not really sure why she was crying, disappointment? I told her not to tell my dad until I came up in about 20 minutes. About ten minutes later my dad came downstairs with my mom. Bitch.
The first thing he said to me was that I should feel bad for causing so much pain and making my mom cry like that. He rushed next to me and knocked over my things, my pencils, my souvenirs. He screamed and told me that all these things were his and that they could all be gone in a moment if I brought this up again. Finished it off with a nice backhand to the head, literally felt my brain bounce from side to side. Never felt so lame in my life.
Sorry for any spelling mistakes. I'm basically just crawled up in my room, not really sure where to go from here.
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I'm so sorry love. Sometimes people suck. You can always come live with me
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Originally posted by Buddy!
I just read one
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Originally posted by Joaquin
isn't it weird how most people still have a hard time coming out to their parents
I mean I've heard a lot of stories of people being scared of being rejected, disowned, etc.
I expected better from people from "developed" countries, in every aspect of the word.
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It's weird. Parents can't just accept that their child is different and pretty much have all these negative and/or religious idea of homosexuality. I'll never understand why other things will outweigh your own child happiness for preferring one or both sexes.
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I wish people would focus on the guy who came out. So tasteless trying to shift the conversation to gif feuds. If someone said something you think it's wrong, just call them out.
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Originally posted by DoubleDutchess
I wish people would focus on the guy who came out. So tasteless trying to shift the conversation to gif feuds. If someone said something you think it's wrong, just call them out.
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Girl
I KNOW him and i'm talking to him in private. Please don't go there.
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