Me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time, but he's leaving this week and we just decided to break it off, the distance is too much.

I used to cry a lot, because I knew he was going to leave eventually and it made me really sad; I would cry a lot tbh and I'd be really sad, but those past few days I've kinda been... numb. I'm still sad, but I don't know what to feel. On one hand, I feel like I should cry when he leaves, because this way I'm going to honour something beautiful, but on the other hand I see him how he's being too rational about this in front of me and bold and I'm thinking why should I be the one to go through pain. No one wants to cry or hurt.

I think I just need time to heal and process this. It's hard knowing the person you love is going to leave for good and all the time we were together I think it was like a black cloud that covered everything, this thought.

How do you heal after a break up? What do you do?

I don't want to talk about this

Time, my friend. There's nothing to do but wait.
It becomes easier.

Honey, he might be playing strong in front of you, but he's probably going through pain too, people deal with that in different ways.

Try to be happy for the moments that you had together and how much you've grown with that relationship, focus on being happy with these things instead of being sad that is over.

And it's okay to take some time to feel sad or to get over it. So you take your time to feel these things, cry and listen to sad music, I think that denying those feelings end up making things worse in the future. Don't feel you have a deadline to feel better.

What you can do right now is focus on things that will distract you, things you like such as shows, movies or any hobbies you have or doing things you haven't done in a while or things you haven't done because you were on the relationship (like seeing a friend, going to a party or concert, having a weekend off to visit some place new, etc).

Also, surround yourself with friends and people who will support, and that include us ATRLers.

Deal with it head on, when you feel like crying just cry, i am sure he feels bad about this too.

Not well, Im still in pain after a bf i had for day (only upset bc he was the best looking thing ever, emo hair, green, piercings, cute face, everything in common, first person to ever turn me on) GOD I WISH HE WOULD GET OUTTA MY HEAD!

im dating a new boy now who will go on tour in January

I usually deal with emotional trauma by self harming and alcohol.

This is true af. Gradually you will start to feel better about it. Get into some hardcore distraction to make the adjustment easier, maybe start a new TV series, get into some books or video games.

I've never been in a relationship, but knowing my mentality - if someone I truly loved broke up with me - I'd end my life pretty quickly

Or you could just put this timeless classique on repeat and follow Peaches' advice

Get over & move on with life. Everything ain't that serious. There's 7 billion people on this planet for a reason

Play Irreplaceable by Beyoncé loud!! LOUD!!! and feel those lyrics. I promise it will help you. it helped me lol

Time.

Best thing i never had >>>>

I give myself time to wallow in self-pity by watching my favorite shows that make me emotional yet give me so much comfort. I then go out with my best friends get drunk. After that I try to channel my feelings into something tangible. To distract myself, I would work out every morning - and it worked. Creating something helped too.

You have to shed your old skin and try your best to move forward.