Test him. Tell him about a problem that you are having. If he just responds with..."Oh" then don't let him tell you all his problems. Its clear he just wants someone to talk at and not with. I have too many friends like this.
Yes. Because im gay all the men in my life use me (not in a sexual way).
Like they know i wont betray them so they always dump their emotional pain on me and im like....get a girlfriend omg!
Like ill be having a good day and feeling good and then they come to me expecting me to feel miserable with them. Its low key annoying but then i realize im like their queen
Like ill be having a good day and feeling good and then they come to me expecting me to feel miserable with them. Its low key annoying but then i realize im like their queen
Ugh, I hate people like that. I understand it a lot more if you're depressed and you want me to cheer you up but don't drag me down with your personal issues all the time or get mad at me for not crying with you.
Oh so update on the situation I talked to him one on one about how I felt and he told me that I was the only person in his life that he could open up to (cause I'm not judgemental ). But he did promise me that he'll take my thoughts into consideration when unloading on me and thanked me for being a good friend.
He hugged me for a while (for a split sec I thought he was going to go in for a kiss ) but yeah, we'll see. Hope he finds a girl because he really needs to be in a relationship to be emotionally stable.
Do you ever feel used by friends/family/spouse/etc?
I have a friend who likes to talk to me a lot, but I think it's because I'm always giving him compliments or making him feel better. He's your typical straight guy and he has the most beautiful blue eyes ever so of course I'm going to give him compliments. He knows that I'm gay and doesn't have a problem with it but I feel like he's just pandering to me so that I can make him feel wanted/desired. He definitely has self esteem issues and believes that he's ugly/unworthy for a girlfriend.
I like him as a person (when he's not being self deprecating), he's a sweet guy but I can't shake the feeling that he's just using me so that he can feel better and totally disregarding who I am and using my sexuality to build his own self confidence. It wasn't as bad when we first started being friends but now 50% of our convos is him telling me a sob story or his insecurities and myself affirming the opposite.
He's an amazing person when I need help and he's definitely a good friend to have so I don't want to lose him but at the same time I can't deal with his ass anymore. (He also asked me yesterday if I wanted to cuddle with him, I'm like boy unless you come out to me this instant, I'm not playing those games with you.)
Oh so update on the situation I talked to him one on one about how I felt and he told me that I was the only person in his life that he could open up to (cause I'm not judgemental ). But he did promise me that he'll take my thoughts into consideration when unloading on me and thanked me for being a good friend.
He hugged me for a while (for a split sec I thought he was going to go in for a kiss ) but yeah, we'll see. Hope he finds a girl because he really needs to be in a relationship to be emotionally stable.
Nah I'm good. He's sexy and all but I'm not a big fan of cuddling unless it's with a boyfriend. If he initiates then I'll cuddle but I'm not gonna be that gay who's on top of every straight friend.
He hugged me for a while (for a split sec I thought he was going to go in for a kiss ) but yeah, we'll see. Hope he finds a girl because he really needs to be in a relationship to be emotionally stable.
try being that smart kid in class lol
people tryna be friends to you and at 2am in the morning they be like hey can you take a picture of the lab assignment for me
Everybody gets used to a degree. You just have to make sure it's not unbalancing the scales of "give and take".
With all relationships you should evaluate them and see if you're getting as much as you give and vice versa. Otherwise you're wasting time having somebody in your life.
). But he did promise me that he'll take my thoughts into consideration when unloading on me and thanked me for being a good friend. 
) but yeah, we'll see. Hope he finds a girl because he really needs to be in a relationship to be emotionally stable.
