We seem to be in a culture, and have been for a very long time, of trivialising male rape. For instance, the common saying 'don't drop the soap' is basically the admittance that gay rape occurs in prisons on a wide scale basis around the world, and that no one really cares. Many seem to believe that it's a joke and is not to be taken seriously. I've even seen strong feminist women who I admire make jokes about male rape that have left me feeling pretty disappointed. The fact is, most male rape victims in prisons are those who have committed white collar crimes, so the argument that 'they deserve it' - an argument I've heard way too many times, couldn't be more wrong or more ignorant.

The fact is, around 3% of all American men have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. From 1995-2010, 9% of rape and sexual assault victims were male.

The question is, why do so many people trivialise these experiences that can lead to socio-physical effects for a lifetime? Is it because people think males are stronger and it doesn't bother them? Do people think men should be able to defend themselves against rape? Discuss.

Remember, if you're a victim, there's always someone willing to listen and there to help you. Don't be scared or fear judgement, and certainly don't be put off going to the hospital for treatment and to the police for justice. You did nothing wrong and shouldn't feel any blame.

Find more info here: https://rainn.org/get-information/st...ssault-victims

Originally posted by Can't_M!ss_This It's really sad. I read a story yesterday about a guy who was raped by a girl during freshman orientation. He kept saying no but she wasn't having it.

It's awful and is a result of sexism.

This is why men need feminism too.

Originally posted by Damien M Legitimate question: how does that happen? Women are not that strong (or at all). A simple shove-aside works. Unless its an older woman/teenager sort of predatory thing, i just don't see it.

Originally posted by Kim Kardashian It's awful and is a result of sexism. This is why men need feminism too.

Originally posted by Roman Holiday "Don't drop the soap" is actually good advice tho. Like, I get it's a joke, but you really don't wanna give any inmates the opportunity to harm you. It's rooted in truth. And I guess some people hold the idea that if you committed a heinous crime, you deserve whatever comes to you. As for why it isn't taken as seriously, I agree it should be, but the numbers of women being raped/assaulted as FAR higher and it's actually a huge part of our patriarchal culture, so it's gonna garner more attention and understanding.

Originally posted by Damien M Legitimate question: how does that happen? Women are not that strong (or at all). A simple shove-aside works. Unless its an older woman/teenager sort of predatory thing, i just don't see it.

Some men are stronger than women, some women are stronger than men. Physically, yes, males are usually stronger because they tend to have a broader build; a female that works out will be stronger than a male that hasn't exercised in his life.

It also doesn't just come down to strength - some people can con another into doing something sexual that they don't want to do.

I think that legally it's very hard for a woman to rape a man because there has to be penetration. Her forcing his **** into her ***** isn't actually rape in the eyes of the law. That's pretty ****ed up.

Originally posted by Damien M Legitimate question: how does that happen? Women are not that strong (or at all). A simple shove-aside works. Unless its an older woman/teenager sort of predatory thing, i just don't see it.

Originally posted by Jan This is the result of sexism and poorly executed feminism. Men do have social roles too and you can't just fight for letting women decide and not letting men do too.