Last month, I met this amazing guy who is totally different from me. I am 22 and he's 24. He's a journalist who's currently working in a newspaper company in my country. At first, I declined to go to the first date with him knowing that he just got out from a long-term relationship with his partner for 4 years. I was afraid that I am just his rebound guy. However, after he convinced me that I am way better than his ex, I finally decided to go out with him. He's a loyal type who doesn't like to fool around and love to settle with only one partner. Although he's not my type (I prefer smart guy with great personality), I fell for him. After we went for 3 dates, we finally made it official to be in committed relationship.

But, last week I started to have a doubt in our relationship. I am currently in my fourth year of medical school (in Malaysia, we went to med school at the age of 18/19) and I will have a busy schedule especially I am doing an attachment in surgery and medical department right now. I really like him and would love to spend my whole life with him and he thought the same thing too but I don't want to compromise my study and we live one-hour apart so we're bound to cheat in the future.

Thus I decided to end everything with him yesterday. To my surprise, he also thinks that we're not going to happen and finally we broke up. Weird thing is I didn't feel sad at all. I love him so much but I just don't feel sad or cry. Is it ok for me not to cry after a break up?

EDIT: I've been trying to cry but I ended up laughing at myself. Does this make me a cold-hearted person?

EDIT: It's been three weeks since our break up, I really really miss him, but i don't want to get back with him. All memories we shared together really make me sad but weirdly, I don't feel the need to cry. I finally let go of him but weirdly, I really miss him.
He's been posting sad tweets on twitter. He seems so upset that our relationship was over. But I have to move on. Me an him are never meant to be together

Share your BREAK UP experience as well sistrens

It's always good to cry and let it out and vent a little bit. Your decision sounds stupid to me though, sorry!

One of the two quotes is a lie, sis. If you "love him so much" you wouldn't want to break up with him over these petty ass "reasons". Plus, you've only known him for a few weeks...

As for the main question of the thread, I think it's fine. People have different emotional responses to break-ups. Some cry and break down instantly, some take their time to slowly get through whatever heartbreak occurred. I'm not a crier either. But the fact that you wanted to end the relationship because "he lives one hour away" makes both of my eyebrows rise multiple inches, so maybe you're simply not in pain at all, sis. And that's fine too.

says who? you? and one hour isn't even that far to be excusing cheating

No, it's not

>last month

i'd only be concerned if you weren't upset after losing a long-term relationship (like, 6+ months) because that would probably mean either the relationship was so terrible that you're happy it's gone or that you didn't really care that much.

Gay people smh.

So true we are so ****ed up, i am starting to lose hope on having a healthy relationship, for ****s sake.

The way he treated me and I just couldn't be apart from him It wasn't the best decision I made but I had to let him go because my study is more important than him right now

sis from the psychology i've studied, this is basically how it is: it's possible to feel a lot of affection and attraction quickly, but the type of love called "companionate love" takes a much longer time to develop and is on a deeper level. that's usually what people mean when they say "in love"

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You need a reality check sis, this ain't cute.

Career first sis!

You can't love somebody after such a short period of time. This other guy is clearly really immature too

The same thing I've thought too

I have never cried after a break-up. I've only ever celebrated.

I don't believe in love. I have never been in love and probably never will. It's made-up. Humans annoy me. Bye.