It seems like ages 20-23'ish is the ballpark range for guys to be at their absolute "questioning" phase of who they are as sexual beings. I think I've always known I am a hunty from an early age, but didn't really accept it until at around 20. I've always been the classic bi now gay later, so sorry if I gave all the true bi's a bad reputation for this.
Which got me thinking, at age 21... were you still confused? Or were you already out? Or maybe you're 30 and still in the closet?
I notice that this age range seems to be the "fighting" and "suppression" phases as well... trying to act as manly as possible to fight whatever it is trying to scream from within, and be part of the "masculine" norm.
I knew I was gay at a very young age, but it wasn't until around 16 that I realized I wanted to be exclusively with guys. I remember thinking that I would have sex with guys, but date/marry women and have a family with a woman.
Once I was 15 or 16 I stopped telling myself I was 'bi'
I couldn't imagine being sexually confused in my 20s+, but everyone has their own path. I wasn't 100% comfortable until I came out because I was able to share things with my friends, such as guys I found attractive. They were supportive so that helped a lot!
Nah, I've known I was gay since I was 16 or 17. I never understood how many people don't realize until their 20s, because at that point haven't you already had sexual fantasies and realized what turns you on? I'm not judging, but I don't understand it. As soon as I was pretty far through puberty, it was just undeniable to me that I was attracted to men.
The one that stuck most was 'straight' though.
I thought you were 20+ since your posts seem mature