Discussion: How do you deal with heartbreak? - Page 3

*-ChriZ-*

first phase: very sad, lots of sad music, probably crying.. it's tough, but I usually just let it happen.

2nd phase: Neutralization. Here, I usually become emotionally neutral because I'm exhausted from phase 1. I usually tend to enter this phase 1 week after ühase 1. This is also the time where I decide to meet up with friends again and refocus.

3rd phase: Re-Confidence. Here I usually kind of say bye bye to the relationship (even tho I still think of the person). But I definitely come to terms with it, say to myself that I'm better than being treated like the way he did (LOTS of Beyonce-music in this phase!!!) and usually work very hard on myself, take nice selfies, go out, have fun, and just believe that there is definitely somebody out there whos better for me anyways.

4th phase: Final Goodybye. Here, I finally don't think of the person anymore.

I honestly allow myself to be "weak" for only a couple of days since I believe it's important to move on and believe in oneself and the fact that only we ourselves can make us truly happy. At the end of the day, that's the most important thing to keep in mind. Of course, exterior factors contribute to one's happiness, but after all, it's all YOU! So believe in that, keep ur head high after the first phase and look forward to something better.

Pristine

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iLays

I just cry my eyes out and listen to music. Emotional songs about heartbreak ala Adele followed by empowerment songs like Kelly Clarksons Stronger. Just crying and letting it all out works.

It all depends on the kind of heartbreak tho. From a breakup, then as I stated above.

From a family death or friend, I just keep to myself for a while.

Terra

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an affair? so they were having basically a relationship with someone else while still being with you? i've had something similar happen to me so i know that feeling all too well and i am seriously, truly so sorry you had to go through that. & it's good that you have work to keep you busy, i have work too but then sometimes.. i just find myself at home, alone thinking back on all my relationships and i just want to end up crying. i hate being alone and i've done horrible stuff to not feel alone but i always end up right back where i started. but that's good you keep yourself up, always do that and stay doing you and happy

tbh again, i know this feeling. god this thread is going to maybe turn into a sobbing mess because now im lowkey crying because god im remembering everything now

i cant be single either tbh. i've been single for a bit and i hate it, i cant stand it. i think that's why i always end up rushing into being with someone but i just love the feeling of being with someone and being theirs and when im alone, i feel like im sick. i just, god i hate it. and if you ever need someone here/there for you, you can always PM me. i'll be your friend and hopefully the bestest one you'll have

the casual ****ing your ex isn't great, but i've done it too. but in the end, it just makes it worse since there is basically no chance of y'all getting back together and deep down, sometimes we hope there is. ugh, life ****ing sucks sometimes :/ &t true that.

that's true! and that's good, but my mourning period is like a week then i keep it all bottled up then ill cry every week

im so unhealthy

this asf. but i never get over it either, ugh.

this. i don't drink much but i do keep myself lonely and all by myself. its like i have the worst cold ever and my heart will just hurt completely.

im listening to 'Love' by her and i am ****ing feeling it

she ****ing knows the feeling tbh

i've broken up with like 3 people but i was basically forced myself to because i couldnt handle being constantly abused and cheated on. likewise, i've been in 15 relationships and 95% of them have ended disastrously

i dont think ill get married either but im sure you will, i know it. you just gotta find yourself first and then the right person will come along.

honestly, everything you wrote.. i needed. it's weird that i havent been in a relationship in a while and this still applies, thank you

this is a good way too. i'm going to try this more too, thankfully my friends always want to hang out when im not working so that's good too. watching romance movies and crying is lowkey the best therapy lol.

Aww. Thank you. Thats sweet.

Dessy Fenix

I put on sad or emotional music. Let my feels out. Last around a day to a few days at best.

nikko0l4l

I get sad, draw artworks, listen to sad music and move on(?).