I don't know but I'd like to know this as well. I'm bi, I prefer men, and am not feminine. Although I do happen to be on this site and used to stan hard for Katy Perry. Now I just low-key like everyone/artists and just here to chill.

Also we're all secretly 'gay'. Most just have different ways of embracing it. Robbie Rogers is gay and very not stereotypical, and I know people irl that are flamboyant who has kids and a wife.

Its a spectrum. Research has indicated that homosexuality and gender identity disorder both probably lie along the same spectrum of incorrect testosterone levels during pregnancy (although this has yet to be proven). However it would fit the bill considering there a gays and lesbians whom are "straight-acting" and looking and then you have progression to much more feminine males and masculine females.

Pheromones also can come into play. Honestly there could me multiple causes that all lead to the same result (being gay), much like certain cancers can be caused by genetics or environment.

But I think for kids, it's likely because they idolize their parents (or a lack of there of). Most of the time it's the mother who raises the child not the father, as in most traditional customs the male is the breadwinner, so we can probably see how the child would start to pick those mannerisms up. I would go along and say he also doesn't know any better, but it's not necessarily a bad thing. For the child, it's just "normal" or even "natural".

I noticed in most cases from gay friends and friends/family who have kids, these children usually only have one parent (usually the mother), and/or have mostly women around them (aunts, sisters, female cousins), and/or a father that works too much or is never around.

But of course it's not always this way.

I don't think it's like this. Most "straight-acting" gay men don't attract attention, so they aren't paid attention to or questioned.

Idk why. I'm bi and everyone thinks I'm straight, I don't have any mannerisms for anyone to think I'm gay or bi

Probably some amalgamation of biological and environmental factors. Perhaps gay men have a specific brain chemistry and structure favoring more feminine traits. And I'm sure there's a tendency to adopt certain archetypes of how a conventional gay man behaves.

Studying stuff like this would be so hard, though. It's practically impossible to prove anything.

Nature and nurture. Basic sociology

the best answer in this entire thread! i believe it was you who was speaking about gene, loci on chromosomes, etc. earlier on in the thread so i can identify with your perspective on this topic because i understand the concepts you were reaching out to.

actually studyig stuff like this is interesting and it isn't impossible. they just need to locate genes and see what those genes regulate and what proteins they are producing. from there on in, you can slowly begin to understand and answer a whole array of questions.