Discussion: When a friend is cheating on their partner - Page 2

EthaneFenty

Not my business

genetic fail

Quote:

Originally posted by wesleywalrus

you don't tell, but you help them find out

This. Noone deserves to be cheated on.

JonginBey

Inevitably, everything will come to light. Until then, I think it's best to not tell

You should also talk to your friend and advise him/her to get his/her **** together.

Newt

I mean, it's a case-by case thing

I think cheating is disgusting and I couldn't live with myself if I knew a close friend or something was consistently cheating on someone. A slip-up is one thing, but chronic cheating shows a complete disregard for another person; I'd rather not even be friends with someone if that's their attitude. In my opinion, I'd talk to the friend, not the cheated on

Notorious K.E.N

Honestly dont help your friend get around but dont expose him. Thats between them two and you could make it worst + add yourself to unnecessary drama

Been there and done that. Dont get involved

Tylerbv

I'd try to subtly ask if they would wanna know if their partner was cheating (as a hypothetical) and then do what they said.

SHICD

Stay out of it

Caesar

Quote:

Originally posted by HausofNiko

What i've learned from Wendy Williams is not to tell.

You are just getting yourself in a bigger mess and making it your problem, and if your friend doesn't believe you they won't trust you anymore. And then the other person in the relationship won't like you either, and you are just starting more problems for yourself and them.

If anything, like Wesley said maybe drop hints or help her/him figure it out, but just try to stay out of it

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Hurem

It's a ****ed up situation. I would first tell my friend to stop doing it because it's disgusting.

I also wouldn't directly tell my friends partner that (s)he's being cheated on. Drop a hint here and there.

We had a similar case last year when my best friends friend was cheating on her boyfriend and he confronted my friend and she admitted he's being cheated on. It was a mess

Drama

You're supposed to be a ride or die for your friend, so why would you tell?

Where is the loyalty??????

Amour&Psyche

One of my friends just a few weeks ago confessed to me that he's cheating on his BF. I cherish our friendship, but having been with a cheater previously, I lost little respect for him. Being from this perspective, I try to advise him to just end the relationship if he's not happy. I don't really feel an obligation to tell his partner, specially after the heaux puked all over my bathroom. Like they say in Latin America "dirty laundry is best washed at home", it's their problems don't make them yours

Dylobs

Most of the time, I'd tell them to tell their partner or I'll tell them myself, depending if I like the partner or not.

Nikolai.

Quote:

Originally posted by wesleywalrus

find out things. where they're going to be and then conveniently go there with your friend at the same time or something like that

Or write an anonymous letter, that always works.

B'Day

Stay OUT of it.
It's not your business, it'll ruin your friendship. But that doesn't mean you should say silent.
TALK to your friend. Remember, you're not there to tell him/her what to do, you're there to help them make the right decisions. Approach they/them (

) in a friendly manner and let them know you are aware and they should let their partner know/stop cheating immediately. If your friend lashes out or refuses to do so, leave it. That's they/them's problem at the end of the day and you tried your best, that's what matters. Because cheating never has a good ending, someone is gonna end up getting hurt.
My inbox is always opened. Let me know how it ends!

rihannafan

You should tell the friend not to, but you shouldn't tell the other person.