I was arguing with an ugly fat lesbian tumblrina that being unhappy with things you can change about yourself is the key to change that may lead to success and happiness later in life, while she preached that being cocky about yourself as you are now and taking no responsibilities is a better way to go through life. Who do you agree with?

Personally, if I'm happy with myself, I have more confidence and get more **** done. So I agree with tumblrina

Of course it is.

Don't let anyone tell you differently.

No, sending discounted hugs for you.

Yeah shouldn't always feel content with yourself. You'll end up never changing which is something you should constantly strive to do. You'll never be perfect, but you can become close to it.

It depends I guess, if I'm unhappy with the way my body currently looks then I'll work out a bit more and eat a bit healthier, and if I'm unhappy with how my grades are I'll try harder and study more. However sometimes it can make me feel really sad about where my life is and I just give up lol

A bit of both tbh. I slow down a lot when I'm unhappy with myself even if I change for the better. I get far more accomplished when I am content with myself.

Same. If I'm unhappy about something my first reaction usually to give up on it or put it off.

Overall it depends. I feel like your entire 20's (at least these days) are spent being unhappy with everything and that can be a good thing as it can help you realize what it is that you want out of life, etc. I've already spent 4 years in college, have a decent job, but I'm not content with it so I'm going back to school next year to hopefully get to a place where I do want to be so 20 years from now I don't have to always ask myself "what if".

not at all, you gotta love yourself the way you want the others to love you

This.

People being happy or unhappy with themselves is usually caused by other people anyway, so it depends.

It really is when you positively criticize yourself

I think it's important to be happy with who you are as a whole. Someone who is filled with very little but self-criticism and self-loathing is highly unlikely to live out a happy life, as they'll often be fretting over a perceived negative attribute, even if it's not actually a negative one. I think it being happy with yourself as a whole leads to more confidence, more self-acceptance, and a more positive outlook on life.

That said, we all have flaws. And you don't want to ignore those either. There's a difference with being unhappy with an aspect of yourself (for example, I had extreme social anxieties/shyness for a long time, something I VERY MUCH did not like or want) and unhappy with everything about yourself (not the case) However, with those flaws, rather than sit and cry about them, I think it's very important to put forward the effort to try and improve or change them. For example, I put forth a lot of effort to overcoming the social anxieties, and I'm happier now than I have been ever before, at least with the social aspects of my life. I think recognizing and trying to change those aspects you don't like about yourself is a major part of living a happy life and being more happy with yourself as a whole (instead of pretending to love your flaws)

Of course, don't sit around and desperately look for flaws either.

Yes

No. Being truly unhappy with yourself is serious and takes a lot of effort to change. You need to love yourself to make any serious progress.

The description in the OP is less deep.