does it annoy you when certain people or news outlets don't know the difference between reads/drags and shade?

Girl nah. They're news outlets so they're obviously clueless. To quote the legendary @VivaciousNYC: GAY means Generations Ahead of Yesterday so let the gp be ignorant.

I mean, yall don't even know tha difference between tha two on here It's really a mess

They need to watch Paris Is Burning.

tbh. It really shouldn't be offensive who uses it, at all. Straight, gay, man, woman. idc. It's offensive when they get it wrong, because it's not that hard to learn

I dont expect heteros to know the differences