I really don't get why people cheat. Like try to talk about whatever problems you're having in your relationship and work on them. If it's not working, then just end the ****ing relationship or work a deal out if there are other things preventing you from splitting up.

Going behind someone's back and just cheating on them and lying about it NEVER ends well.

And if you're the type who can't stay faithful to one person, then don't drag people into a relationship. Just stay single.

Oh sweetie, I can tell you are very young. Life will teach you why sometimes people cheat. It's not always possible to leave a relationship (could be financial constraints, paralyzing fear, abuse, living somewhere with no support network outside of that person, knowing that if you leave your partner you will lose your existing support network, or that it will damage your career, any number of reasons). Since humans have been able to think they've lying. We do it to maintain the status quo. We do it because sometimes life is too short to settle for one choice.

Okay, I just re-read the source article. Nowhere does it say he was cheating.

Am I on all of ya'lls ignore list? This is serious. Screw cheating. Like cry a river about it. We're talking about real issues now. Identity theft, extortion, scams, etc. You can live through cheating. Yeah it sucks and all that crap but you move on. It's a lot harder to move on from identity theft. Let's not even talk about the public shaming that most would go through, such as a mayor or somebody else. And again, not everybody who used AM were on the site to cheat on their significant other or to get with somebody already taken.

I know a lot of you are young and you probably think that cheating is the end of the world. It's not. There is life after it. There's also a whole world outside of your relationship. Lots of people get divorced and friends and colleagues probably all know why the relationship went sour. But this is a very public data breach that not only includes usernames but other information as well.

some of y'all actually scare me

yeah, cheating sucks and hurts but cheaters don't deserve to DIE

Where in the article does it say that he used work computers?

Anyway, bullying is bullying. What you're bullied for in your teen years fades. It's child stuff that even the people who tormented you won't remember 5 years after high school. Adult world stuff lingers. This guy was a police chief with 25 years experience.

Now he's dead. Is it directly linked to the data breach? We don't know yet. But in the real world, things like this can destroy your whole life, everything you've worked for. My being called a (rhymes with maggot) in high school and cutting myself and being miserable doesn't affect my life today. It pretty much all went away when I walked out of high school for the last time. The jocks and other people who used to make fun of me now add me on Facebook or wave or invite me over at the bars.

So this information gets leaked right? What impact would that have on him? Would he lose his pension? What are the actual consequences of this? This is public image. It's a delicate thing. That's why we have privates lives. Private lives are complicated and messy and out of our control. Maybe his wife knew. Maybe they were separated and both were encouraged to date other people in the meantime and he chose AM and she chose eHarmony.

See all these ifs? There's not enough information to say "karma's a bitch" or "I don't feel bad for him". It's so incredibly rude. The man is dead not matter how it happened.

I'm mostly referring to general situations. Obviously if you're financially dependent on one another or whatever, you can't just walk away.