Does anyone else on here get scared at the thought of someone relying on them/becoming dependant on them/smothering them and not giving them any space?

Sometimes I want a relationship but the thought of all of that stuff puts me off so I end up hooking up with people who could be potential bfs and then I ignore their texts and calls and make excuses when after they want to go out to hang out or whatever.

Im not sure if it's because I'm only 21 or if i have some sort of complex

I've always been the same way, but it's not an issue unless you're looking for commitment. If you're pushing people away because being vulnerable or honest makes you feel uncomfortable, maybe you should re-think intimacy as not being such a bad thing. People genuinely enjoy having others be open and comfortable with them.

If you push people away because you don't want to commit to anything, then you should just be honest with people about not wanting to be tied down. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I'm the same age and I think about this all the time. But, you might end up finding someone who makes you rethink not wanting to be in a relationship. Trust me ahaha. When it's the right person, it doesn't feel like smothering because they know exactly how to relate to you emotionally and how much space to give you.

I think I always think about if I got into something serious and was really into it and everything went wrong So it's easier for now while i'm young to just not bother. But you're right, maybe someone will change my mind.

You are 21. Just be patient. There is plenty of time to get into a relationship. I used to think I should get into a relationship right away. It's not always the right thing to do when you are so young. A relationship will happen when you are ready for one. Don't need to rush it. Also, be honest with the other guys/girls.

You're right I shouldn't lead people on