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Originally posted by Adonis
Being ignorant to racism doesn't mean you didn't experience it. It means you didn't know it was racism at the time it was happening to you. You would need to live in his shoes to be able to suggest that he is at fault for people treating him poorly because he's black/gay. Right now I'd say you don't have enough information to make the claims you've made TBQH. Once you've experienced the same situations only then could you maybe be qualified to speak to it.
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Perhaps you need to not speed read, and then you'd see I only offered that as a first step suggestion. And immediately responded that
"IF" it didn't work, maybe he should just move, taking into account that it may be entirely unavoidable/REAL.
It's general advice given
because I don't know the specifics of his case.
EDIT: And your implications that a change in mindset is somehow synonymous with being ignorant to racism is the hallmark of close mindedness. Especially since the exact opposite is just as probable to be true. People often attribute negative experiences to be the result of whatever they're most insecure about, without objectivity.
For example, let's say an overweight fem black guy is harshly turned down by a white male. Even if the guy gives absolutely no indication as to why he was so rude in his refusal, the receiver might assume that it was because he was 1)Fat. 2)Fem, or 3) black. And the decision is often based off that individuals deepest insecurity. Basically, there's a lot of assumptions being made. And this is the case for most people, hence my suggestion to first explore whether some of it might be a product of his thinking. Merely suggesting that exploration however does NOT mean it IS his fault, and no where did I say or imply that.
