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Why are women allowed to physically abuse men?
First of all, i did not make this thread for you to make fun of me. This is a serious problem, I'm ruined emotionally. So my best friend's in love with me. She won't say it loud, only while drunk. She also knows I'm gay and we can't happen. I was even kissing a guy for an hour right in front of her. Yet we spend so much time together and she;s just a woman. She fell in love with me, even suggested I should take her on a date to the restaurant. We've had sex several times, but it meant nothing. We were wasted and I never lied to her about my sexual orientation. She probably thinks I'm bisexual though. Or she wants to believe.
So the point is, the more I ignore her tryings to make us happen, the crazier she gets. She hit me several times. Even today. Everytime she acts the same way: goes furious over nothing, attacks me with her long nails, digs them into my skin, screams and then, 5 minutes later, acts like nothing happened. Of course, according to her, I am the aggressive one. She accused me of trying to break her finger today, when I grabbed her hand, trying to avoid her nails. My friends think I'm a loser who can't even tame a woman. But I won't hit her. I'm not a guy who'd physically hurt anyone, even a woman. I'm just a gay man who needs to be taken care of. Just because we both had sex doesn't mean anything to me. So yeah, I made a mistake, by letting her think we can happen, yet NOTHING can justify abuse.
We, men, are expected to be strong, independent and brave. But when women hurt us like that, people ignore the problem. We can't hit a woman because it's unacceptable by the society, but when women hit men, people consider us weak and helpless. Why is that? Why are women allowed to disrespect men and use violence against them?
What should I do? Having a serious, honest talk is impossible. She'll never agree with me. She obsessively disagrees with everyone on everything. So whenever I try to talk to her, it always ends up the same way: she tries to make me believe I am a problem and I am a bully. She won't say she loves me. She's waiting for me to make a first step. Should I tell her directly we won't happen? Thanks for your honest advices.
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