I have 6 inch Thick Curly hair......
And sometimes I make them more loose with some stuff that I use (like Argan oil)


Then they look more wavey-ish and I like it...
But I would never relax my hair cuz I love my natural texture too much...and I think that its a little selfhating.

I can Understand if you would relax your hair if you just liked How it looked and do not hate your own natural Texture...But if you relax your hair cuz of the Texture of your natural then your selfhating....


An example:



Thoughts?

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A good friend of mine wears blond weave, colored contacts and always relaxed her hair when she was younger. She doesn't hate being black, but I think she does it to fit in. Her mother called her an Oreo to her face, tho.

Natural, cared-for hair looks so much better than anything ****ed with chemicals. The damage from the relaxers

I don't know if its necessarily self hate, sometimes it's just esthetics. I straighten my hair, it doesn't mean I hate being Black. The greatest thing about black hair is that we can do pretty anything ( braids, frizzy, curly, wavy, shaved) without looking ridiculous

I don't think disliking the texture of your hair means that you hate your blackness. I like being black, but fully admit that whites/other races won in the hair department (easier maintenance) We won in others, so it's all good.

I relax my hair and I don't hate myself. Is like every people who dyes their hair, tan their skin or faves who bleaches their skin also

I don't relax my hair but there's nothing self hate about it, lol.

No it isn't self-hate

I think it's a bit of self hate.. not really most peoples fault because society tries it's best to make black people hate themselves and their hair. Like Callisto said, I'm happy people are starting to embrace their natural hair because it can be beautiful. Also a lot of people didn't choose to have their hair relaxed, their mom might have done it at a young age and now they don't know how to care for natural hair and aren't used to how it looks. I say self hate because a lot of the time people relax their hair and it looks really flat or damages their hair to where they get bald spots yet they prefer that to natural kinky hair.. Natural hair is tougher to maintain and grow tho so some people just prefer that

Not really. It depends on the facial structure. Sometimes people look better with and afro, and other time with straight hair. Of course if someone looks better with curls and keeps on straightening them, then we might have a problem.
Side note, I have straight hair and I'd never relax if I had curls. Curls and waves are the best textures of hair >>>>>

Depends if youre relaxing to the point where its falling out a lil but white people can also get perms. All in all society has told black people theyre ugly from the inside out for centuries so i cant really blame the women who do it for jobs and things.

Not at all. I'm not black but my hair is verrry frizzy and gets nappy on top and I've considered relaxing it just because it's such a hassle to get ready in the morning when all I wanna do is wake up and leave the house.

It is definitely self hate. If you have to do all of that just to fit in that means you think what you have naturally isn't good enough.

I agree with Callisto that it's become so ingrained in black culture that it may not even be synonymous with hate anymore but the roots still stem from it.

It's also very dumb. Most relaxers have a very strong base in it (usually sodium hydroxide) to break the bonds that makes hair curly. Adding that **** to your scalp will eat it away and nothing will grow there. If it drips in your eye, you will go blind (I saw a person go blind right before my eyes in a organic chemistry lab it's not a pretty sight). So it's very stupid to do I don't understand why people would ever...

and LOL @ a certain poster in here. Lemme not expose

Thank God I don't even need to!!

Not at all!! As a hairstylist i need all the coins i can get, so go get your relaxer girls!!

I don't see it as self hate