From the outside (I've never been immersed in the gay scene of either city), it would seem like NYC gays are the better bunch. I mean, just go on WeHo Confidential...
But to be fair, you surround yourself with whomever you want, so any gay scene can be a good time if you're with the right people.
Based off these responses I'm so excited to move to NYC next year for college I still want to experience LA so I might do a summer internship there at some point to test it out before I graduate