ATRL: Femphobia: Hating on Fem Gays. - Page 3

CallumDavies

yes fem hating and camp shaming is a big issue within our community

straight acting gays are somehow 'better' which is sad, its mostly internalised homophobia which isn't surprising consider the society we live in

new gays are very much like "im gay but im not feminine" which is just so backward

Su-Barbie-A

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Originally posted by AstroBall

The weird gender roles placed on homosexual relationships is definitely an extension of misogyny aha.

When a gay guy says they "hate fem gays" it's because they see homosexuality as an impairment to their binary masculine identity. So, in order to make up for their perceived loss of masculinity, they reject anything perceived as feminine and that includes gay men that they think fall into more patriarchal feminine roles.

It's all pure bulls**** and if someone tells you that, they're self-hating, bigoted, misogynist and homophobic tbqh.

The ultimate drag

Narcotic

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Originally posted by Su-Barbie-A

Honey, your top 3 artists on last.fm are Mariah, Christina and Britney, by your obtuse logic you must be a fem gay

Judging someone based on their taste is no better.
However I would never say never but I can't imagine dating a fem gay right now, but most of them are quite good friends who are being honest but also humorously rude, which is fun.
Also I find them really confident, yet they really have to be to get through these times of hatred on everyone who is not a white straight middle-class male. Especially in places like the US

CallumDavies

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Originally posted by AstroBall

The weird gender roles placed on homosexual relationships is definitely an extension of misogyny aha.

When a gay guy says they "hate fem gays" it's because they see homosexuality as an impairment to their binary masculine identity. So, in order to make up for their perceived loss of masculinity, they reject anything perceived as feminine and that includes gay men that they think fall into more patriarchal feminine roles.

It's all pure bulls**** and if someone tells you that, they're self-hating, bigoted, misogynist and homophobic tbqh.

yes! get them!

Smooth Criminal

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Originally posted by Artemisia

Says every fem gay.

Clock

I bet people discriminating against fem-gays rock to the Pussycat Dolls in their bedrooms at night.

!Blue!

I don't get what people could possibly have against feminine males.
Can't they stand feminine women either aka have something against feminity in general or are they against things that go against the norm ? Both reasons are stupid af anyway.
Also why do people always equate feminity with "obnoxious"?

Vato

Aren't the same people saying "disliking fems is bad!!!1!2" also saying they only date a certain race because of "preference". The gays on this site are a joke

CallumDavies

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Originally posted by Vato

Aren't the same people saying "disliking fems is bad!!!1!2" also saying they only date a certain race because of "preference". The gays on this site are a joke

not me, I've dated guys from most races

Vato

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Originally posted by CallumDavies

not me, I've dated guys from most races

I didn't mean you. They know who they are.

Su-Barbie-A

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Originally posted by Narcotic

Judging someone based on their taste is no better.

My point is that liking female pop music is considered a "female" trait and the user I quoted wants to pull the good ol' "If I wanted to date a girl, I'd be straight" card

UnusualBoy

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Originally posted by !Blue!

I don't get what people could possibly have against feminine males.
Can't they stand feminine women either aka have something against feminity in general or are they against things that go against the norm ? Both reasons are stupid af anyway.
Also why do people always equate feminity with "obnoxious"?

A big part of them are, not all of them but many.

Narcotic

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Originally posted by Su-Barbie-A

My point is that liking female pop music is considered a "female" trait and the user I quoted wants to pull the good ol' "If I wanted to date a girl, I'd be straight" card

The problem starts with these boxes like female and male traits.
How is anything besides the possession of **** and a ***** a female trait? We are living in a world of (supposed) equality where males cook while the woman is still at the office earning money. Nowadays roles have shifted and are blended together and then you come around with something like "liking female pop music is considered a female trait" and throw the progress of acceptance, freedom and equality we've made 15 years back in time

RudeBoyy

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Originally posted by !Blue!

Also why do people always equate feminity with "obnoxious"?

!!!!!!!!!!! + "catty"

Most masc guys are extremely obnoxious.

@Narcotic Feminine =/= Female.

Su-Barbie-A

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Originally posted by Narcotic

The problem starts with these boxes like female and male traits.
How is anything besides the possession of **** and a ***** a female trait? We are living in a world of (supposed) equality where males cook while the woman is still at the office earning money. Nowadays roles have shifted and are blended together and then you come around with something like "liking female pop music is considered a female trait" and throw the progress of acceptance, freedom and equality we've made 15 years back in time

Ok but I'm not the one that said "I just personally wouldn't date a guy who acts like a girl.. just not my cup of tea", you're complaining to the wrong person, honey.

CallumDavies

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Originally posted by !Blue!

Also why do people always equate feminity with "obnoxious"?

just an extension of patriarchal society

!Blue!

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Originally posted by UnusualBoy

A big part of them are, not all of them but many.

So are alot of masculine people but yet they don't receive criticism and aren't looked down on, so.
Only feminine qualities are deemed as "annoying", "obnoxious" or in general bad, especially on males.

Elvenpath

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Originally posted by pinktennisfreak

I don't hate fem gays, I'm just not attracted to them. It's very off-putting for me.

theworldfamous

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Originally posted by pinktennisfreak

I don't hate fem gays, I'm just not attracted to them. It's very off-putting for me.

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Newt

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Originally posted by Su-Barbie-A

It's not femphobia, it's called internalized-homophobia and like every homophobia related issue, it stems from misogyny.

Honey, your top 3 artists on last.fm are Mariah, Christina and Britney, by your obtuse logic you must be a fem gay

Alot of the issues do stem from misogyny but certainly not all of them*

QueenBLadyG

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Originally posted by pinktennisfreak

I don't hate fem gays, I'm just not attracted to them. It's very off-putting for me.

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