I'm really boring, quiet, unfunny, have no self-confidence and can't hold a conversation for more than 8 seconds. I'm also embarassed about having these insecurities. I'm afraid my boyfriend might leave me.
What should I do?

Those things do not make you trash! Don't look so down upon yourself

Are you being sincere right now or trolling?

How can you have a boyfriend when you are unable to hold on a conversation for more than eight seconds?

I feel the same way sometimes

I've seen your nudes before.

If you don't know how to keep a conversation going this video is perfect for you. He actually knows what he's talking about. His audience is mostly straight but the advise works for anyone.

Just because some people find a way to get a partner once, it doesn't mean they are great at talking to different people and dating.

I've been in the same place as you before though. Some things change naturally over time. Other things you need to work on and train yourself to deal with differently until it becomes habit

I get what you say but he posted "I'm afraid my boyfriend might leave me" as if it was as a result of lack of confidence or sth

I recommend you to start smoking pots, it really makes you feel relaxed and you don't care about people's thought at all. Just try this.

One of the problems in carrying a conversation when dating is that you can judge yourself too much. You're afraid of what you're going to say. Don't filter yourself. Just speak your mind.

Also, don't put too much pressure on yourself to carry the conversation; it's counterproductive. Ask questions, let the other person talk and jump off from what they say.

Also, short silences are ok, just not long ones.

I know, it's not helping that he just posted and left without giving us any details.

I used to be like that as well. I hate that you feel that way. I would start with focusing on something you love in this world, a passion, and focus on that. And build up that passion and find confidence with that, and hopefully that may transcend into other areas in your life. Confidence is really important to how we present ourselves. I hope that helps in some way. I would recommend seeing a counselor just so that you can talk about this more in depth with someone. Going to a counselor does not mean there's anything wrong with you, like many people seem to believe.

I hope you work through this!

We all know of my shortcomings.


I just drink a lot

Ask, Lyanla to fix it

Just become REALLY good at sex.