So Tinder, Okcupid, and Pof single handedly ruined dating for everyone in the past 2 years.
Everyone has a side piece. Everyone has 4 people they are secretly talking to.
People can swipe left and cheat right. Its so much easier now to cheat then it was before.
What is a relationship in 2015? Does this even exists anymore?



When will dating go back to normal monogamous standards?

I am pretty sure it still exists but you're right there are way too many options now and that can be bad. For a lot of ATRLers including me though, those apps allow us to meet people cause otherwise we're too shy and don't know how to meet other gays. They have a positive side as well.

The question is when will people realise that sex is just that, sex, and that a meaningful relationship is so much more worth? We live in a time of permanent oversexualization. To each their own, I, however, am not gonna jump on this train and this whole open relationship, stanning for ****stars sht. Get a life. Just my opinion, as a gay man who is pissed of by the majority of this 'community'.

I'm sorry that dating apps have ruined dating for you but that's not the case for everyone

Apps like Grindr and Tindr have personally helped me find dates. I've never been in a relationship but I know many people with successful relationships who found their partners through apps and online dating.

Also, statistically speaking, the internet and mobile dating apps are helpful for really small marginalized communities like the LGBTQ+ community. It's not like I'm going to magically meet my dream man at the coffee shop like so many straight people do.

I wish I knew. It's next to impossible to date. You can't do it on Grindr because the guys on there want sex. If it's not just sex, it's sex at the forefront.

I think a fatigue will set in though. Trends always fade and old school courting will come back. People will realize that they're lonely as a whole and they'll start trying to build something organically.

At least that is my wish

Nice question.
I guess when they have seen enough cheaters, and everything goes against their will, then true relationship will happen.

Talking about it generally, new generation kids is taking over social apps dating. This topic/question cover everything in love.

In my case, we do not follow each other on any social apps or check each other out. All we do is communicating. Real life communication.

You're right, but people cheated other ways before, they use new methods now, perhaps you're not aware how people used to cheat before. I myself I'm not that much aware of previous methods but I know they exist, people used to go out more before the internet and that's how you met people and ****ed them at that time. I mean people still go out, you know.

Great question, though.

It's still "normal" Just don't use those apps if you want something real and serious. Not that you can't find it on there, but most people act more serious then they really are on apps

I spend maybe 45 minutes on this site in two days. My friends and life aren't affected by ATRL.net. However, my dating life is next to nothing since if I use Grindr I'm going to find nothing but guys who want a hook up. If they're open to dating they'll also have "or fun too" in their profile. I used Grindr for 3 years before I deleted it for good a few months ago. I've seen it all on their. I did find two boyfriends in that time but those boyfriends just didn't want to be alone. So that was a bust.

I'm sure it varies by area but where I'm at the gays want the sex and just that, if you meet them on the apps. I've had friends that would literally spend hours swiping left and right on Tinder looking for someone. The only thing that broke up that habit was the occasional check of Grindr to see if the guy they're after on that app messaged them back.

The problem isn't the technology. It's how it is being used. People are giving in to their base urges and the worst part of themselves because they can and because it is easy. Why work towards getting to know someone when you can have sex with them and move on? While I'm attractive, if my profile is next to somebody who is like a model or an adonis, I'm going to get looked over even if my profile makes me seem like a perfect match to whatever guy is looking. I'll get messaged after the hotter guys get taken or turn them down. It's a cycle really. The hottest get picked first and the closer you get to 3 am while still alone, the more desperate pick you become.

I think it's things like that which will lead to dating going back to normal

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these apps are a blessing for people living in countries where u could get jailed for being gay which is more important so here's to another 100 years for grindr and that other thing

ps.. i use planetromeo

Human interactions have become shallow, imo.

That's why I will remain single until something hopefully changes for the better.

I agree, the biggest problem with applications like Grindr it's not the wanting just sex and move on, you know, not everyone cares or want a relationship the problem it's everything based on just a photo and a description, I realized I was falling too in that trap of judging just from the photos, it's like you don't have time to waste to discover someone or just talk, but that's a huge problem of our society in general, we don't allow ourselves patience and we don't allow ourselves the chance of making mistakes , we have to get everything fast.

But it's not all bad, it's actually useful, you have the chance to meet people, it's hard for homosexuals/bisexuals to have the chance to hook up with someone irl, so.