Discussion: Bisexuality - Why Is It Constantly Undermined? - Page 3

Mezik

My only problem is with Bisexual men who'll date another man and sleep with him for months that leave him because he says he could never be in a longterm relationship with another guy.

accelgors

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Originally posted by tittieslap

I've personally never met someone who I though was genuinely bisexual. They've all been girls trying to seem edgy and boys wanting to seem less homosexual.

that's so judgmental...you can't just brush off someone's identity as "trying to seem edgy", there's no way you know them better than they know themselves and you're probably completely wrong and they actually have sexual feelings towards both genders but just don't show it all the time because it's not their mission in life to impress you

gagacasanova

That's because they think it's full on, 100% gay. Well, it's not.
And I'm not talking here.
I may have been on here for a year, I still don't know this site very well.

xclusivestylesz

Bisexuality exists but people rather you be black or white. On the other hand, most people use the term as a stepping stone until they're certain what they really are. That's where the bi hate comes from. Most people just assume we're just in the closet still/confused. I consider myself bi and I'm equally sexually attracted to both genders. When it comes to sex I genuinely don't care if its with a male or female.

judaskills

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Originally posted by Sugar Rush

My only problem is with Bisexual men who'll date another man and sleep with him for months that leave him because he says he could never be in a longterm relationship with another guy.

Agreed, I get a lot of closet bisexuals or bicurious guys trying to have s*x dl, but they won't date a guy. NTY. And online especially I always see guys that label themselves as bi have things in their profiles like "no fagg*ts" so that doesn't help their case.

tittieslap

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Originally posted by accelgors

that's so judgmental...you can't just brush off someone's identity as "trying to seem edgy", there's no way you know them better than they know themselves and you're probably completely wrong and they actually have sexual feelings towards both genders but just don't show it all the time because it's not their mission in life to impress you

It's not judgmental, it's my observation and opinion on their character. I'm not even looking to be impressed by other people's sexuality either. I just know when someone looks like they are in love or sexually attracted and when they are clearly pretending for whatever reason. You obviously haven't seen what I've seen with these people so you can't make an assumption about my personal situations.

Haunter

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Originally posted by accelgors

wtf there are so many people that are saying that people use it as a crutch when coming out but if they are how is that any of your business? that's a very personal decision and it's totally understandable why they'd do that so it's not fair to judge an entire sexuality as not real for it. that's something that's on a personal level and it has nothing to do with bisexuality in general

Maybe because people are using it as "Oh don't worry I'm not fully gay"

cloudinthesky

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Originally posted by SpinThatShhh

The gays and straights can't accept that some people simply like both.

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Originally posted by Guernica

They don't understand it so they react with disgust and disbelief. They only like one gender so it "doesn't make sense" to them that somebody can like more than one and so they claim it simply doesn't exist.

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Originally posted by Ryan

The ignorance and bi-erasure on ATRL is disheartening. For all the pride and arrogance that comes with the gays on here, the idea that someone could be sexually and/or romantically attracted to both sexes seems to be an elusive unicorn of thought.

Yes, *some* gays use being bi as a way to ease their way out of the closet. Not everyone. Thus accusing every bi person of being "actually" gay is as offensive as saying all gay men are fems and gay women butch.

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Originally posted by dirrtydiana

Jealousy

they cant accept that some of us can enjoy the best of both worlds

These and any variation of them are the correct answers.

It's shocking how many gays get all up in arms about being denied their rights and being treated like dirt, and yet gay men are some of the most hypocritical people in that aspect.

They should know what it feels like to be a hated minority, yet so many of them constantly treat people within their own community as hated minorities (blacks, asians, obese, bisexuals).

Also, you can't expect everyone to be 100% black and white about sexuality. It doesn't always work that way. Some of you need to research the kinsey scale, but not every bisexual person is 50-50 with male and female. Some bisexuals like men more, some like women more. Either way, it's none of your business unless you're in a relationship with them. And even then: If they're with you then it's because they're happier with you than with the alternative and you should be satisfied with that. If you break up and they move onto the other gender (or even if they stick with your gender), it doesn't make them liars. It just means that they prefer one over the other IN THAT MOMENT.

It's not your place to tell someone what they're attracted to.