After going through some awful stuff in my past relationships, I've been damaged permanently and I've become a clingy, needy person. I've developed some huge trust issues. Now after 10 minutes of chatting with a potential boyfriend, I can't leave him alone.

I know it's one of the worst features that a guy can has and it's a major turn-off. So my question to you sistrens, do you have trust issues? Do you get obsessed over guys you recently met? For those of you who used to be clingy but now knows how to keep distance; any advice for us needy ones?

Share your stories.

Ya, I was cheated on

I used to be a little bit but I'm not entirely sure how I got past that. I guess I just realized it and told myself to stop doing those things and make other friends too.

I had a friend who was obsessive and clingy and he doesn't really have many friends and is a bit crazy. I ran away as fast as I could when it finally became too much and it seemed others did the same to him. His problem though is he would never admit he was clingy even when I showed him all the proof and other people said the same thing so at least you are aware of what you're doing. I hope somehow you figure it out though because clinginess will never work in relationships.

Yes which is why I don't think I'll ever be able to have a healthy relationship with anyone. I'm always just waiting for them to let me down...

I don't trust anyone so no one can let me down
learn from the evil sistrens

Yes, it's really hard for me to trust people but at the end of the day you have to remember that each individual is completely different. If you're in the mindset where you're waiting for someone to let you down, then don't get into a relationship. If you feel like you can't chat for more than 10 minutes without becoming clingy/obsessed, leave guys alone for a while or try to get to the root of the problem and solve it.

One of the things that happened to me so I feel you.

This exactly. You just took the words right out of my mouth sis. I'm scared that I'll never have a healthy, balanced relationship with someone. I'm always expecting them to do something bad and let me down and %100 of the time it happened, so far.

Yes, I get extremely paranoid to the point of thinking my ex-gf was cheating on me with her own father, just the fact that she talked with someone made me think she was cheating on me with them.

I'm not clingy when it comes to friends, only relationships and I know they will never work if I don't fix my mentality.

The root of the problem is my ex boyfriend who made me feel like a worthless human being and now I can't stop thinking the same about myself. It's been 2 years and I have only made little progress. I took a lot of time for myself but I still can't figure out how to solve my issues and I don't wanna spend my teenage years alone.

I AM needy because i barely have friends.

HOWEVER, you have to be smart and try to stop being needy, because it'll only work against you

Yep, at this point I just assume everyone that likes me is using me to some extent only because it happened once years ago

Oh I definitely do. I blame my family because they are opinionated, judgemental, like-to-talk about you behind your back little ****wads.

yes.

I don't really like trusting people but I don't have trusting issues I guess

I'm very jealous of my bf's personal trainer. I hate him to the point of blocking him on facebook and ignoring conversations about him with my bf and our friends.

I tried sistrens. I really tried to trust this guy and I never acted needy. It was going great until I've learnt that he's seeing some other guy as well and he didn't even care to let me know.

I've accepted my fate, I'm not gonna fight back, it happens every time. He's not even responding. Oh well. I'm pretty sure I'll live my life like this, chasing after boys and losing them.

I've become so from experience. Naturally I'm a very trusting person, but I'm also very gullible. People taking advantage of that has led me to have a major problem trusting people emotionally.