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“Will & Grace”-style co-dependent friendships may be fetishized as something adorable and even desirable among a certain subset of forever-single women, but these overly-close gay male/straight woman relationships are ultimately harmful where and when the man is reduced a Polly Pocket.
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Do you think gay men and straight women can be friends?
For example, I relate better to women than to men. I don't get how men think. I usually enjoyed female banter. However, now I prefer guy friends (gay or straight, I don't care) over my straight girlfriends.
My straight girlfriends often see me as adorable, cute, and perfect for their other GBF (gay best friend
), because well... here it comes, we're both into guys. Perfect reason to date. They don't seem to be interested in what I like in a guy for example. I am perfect for shopping, I am great for witty one-liners, I am fabulous. End of sentence.
I never realized how painfully oblivious I was to the fact I wasn't one of the girls, when I told my girlfriends all men were assholes. Never did I realize I was different from then, in the fact that I was actually "one of those assholes". In a way it's like I have to pretend I am not with some of the '*** hags', so that I can be one of them.
Also, I don't think there'll ever be a complete mutual understanding between a man and a woman; I'll never understand how women can be so worried about their make-up, what it's like to give birth. As much as we like to pretend it's not, the life of a (gay) man is essentially different from that of of a woman. We're not wired in the same way, neither are our brains, so in a way it might not make sense to (just) have (straight) girlfriends.
So what do you think? Is it better for gay men to have other male friends?
I AM NOT SAYING FRIENDSHIP WITH A WOMAN IS IMPOSSIBLE, but is it as satisfactory as friendships with a man? 
anyone can be friends with anyone 
