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Discussion: Why is "top" not used as an insult but "bottom" is?
Member Since: 1/2/2014
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Us bottoms need to take control and stop letting tops think we are passive bitches. Like the good sis, Steve Harvey said in Think Like A Man. "When a man approaches you you're the one with total control over the situation-whether he can talk to you, buy you a drink, dance with you, get your number, take you home, see you again, all of that. We certainly want these things from you; that's why we talked to you in the first place. But it's you who decides if you're going to give us any of the things we want, and how, exactly, we're going to get them.". You can be a bottom and be dominant. You can be bottom and still be an "alpha-male". Bottoms are in control. Bottomist.
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Member Since: 12/1/2010
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Passive vs. Dominate, even though I kind of disagree with the idea that bottoms are passive. Bottoms have a lot of power over me 
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Because the LGBT community is still somewhat misogynistic. They equate bottoming with the idea that femininity & passiveness is a sign of weakness, just as they do with transgendered people - they do not understand why someone born with male jewels would feel the need to be feminine and they do not understand how people born with female bits (the "weaker" gender) could ever live up to the "strength" of males.
The idea that not being assertive and domineering means weakness is one tied to the inequalities feminism is meant to fight. It takes STRENGTH to be vulnerable, to give someone the power to hurt you. Why we continue to perpetuate this idea of being submissive as weakness is just BEYOND.
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Member Since: 3/3/2012
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Originally posted by Lexiel
As a top, I love bottoms and worship them and I don't see that word as an insult, but a compliment 
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Hunty, pleathe...
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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People on this site can't come up with original jokes, so I'd guess that somebody made one good bottom joke and we've been trying to relive its glory for years now.
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Member Since: 3/7/2014
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Originally posted by Obsession
Because the LGBT community is still somewhat misogynistic. They equate bottoming with the idea that femininity & passiveness is a sign of weakness, just as they do with transgendered people - they do not understand why someone born with male jewels would feel the need to be feminine and they do not understand how people born with female bits (the "weaker" gender) could ever live up to the "strength" of males.
The idea that not being assertive and domineering means weakness is one tied to the inequalities feminism is meant to fight. It takes STRENGTH to be vulnerable, to give someone the power to hurt you. Why we continue to perpetuate this idea of being submissive as weakness is just BEYOND. |
Strength and power isn't a masculine/feminine thing, though. Both traits should be obligatory for everyone, gay/straight/man/woman/etc.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by RatedG²
Nothing portrays masculinity like ****ing a male in the ass
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That's gross, why would anybody stick their Dick in a guy's ass where he poops from 
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Member Since: 10/27/2006
Posts: 10,536
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Homophobia.
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Originally posted by Lexiel
As a top, I love bottoms and worship them and I don't see that word as an insult, but a compliment |
PM me 
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
Posts: 21,846
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"We teach bottoms to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to bottoms, ‘You can have femininity, but not too much. You should aim to be MASC4MASC, but not too MASC otherwise you would threaten the top.’ Because I am a bottom, I’m expected to aspire to always keep the bussy clean. I’m expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that keeping the bussy clean is the most important. Well eating chipotle can be a good thing— It can be a source of joy and love and mutual support. But why do we teach bottoms to avoid chipotle when we don’t teach tops the same? We raise bottoms to see each other as competitors, not for jobs or for accomplishments— which I think can be a good thing— but for the attention of tops. We teach bottoms that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that tops are. BOTTOMinist: a person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the bottom."
-Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
Posts: 5,341
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Originally posted by 91Winchester
Strength and power isn't a masculine/feminine thing, though. Both traits should be obligatory for everyone, gay/straight/man/woman/etc.
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That's not the point though. It's the way society views these traits that's the problem. They keep assigning strength to males and submission (that they perceive as weakness) to females.
I'm not interested in discussing this further with you specifically, as you're well-known for perpetuating prejudice. I don't see the point in trying to educate people who insist on keeping their minds closed. 
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Member Since: 3/19/2012
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Bottoms are weak and submissive  what kind of question? The answer is obvious.
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Member Since: 3/7/2014
Posts: 2,233
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Quote:
Originally posted by Samuel
"We teach bottoms to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to bottoms, ‘You can have femininity, but not too much. You should aim to be MASC4MASC, but not too MASC otherwise you would threaten the top.’ Because I am a bottom, I’m expected to aspire to always keep the bussy clean. I’m expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that keeping the bussy clean is the most important. Well eating chipotle can be a good thing— It can be a source of joy and love and mutual support. But why do we teach bottoms to avoid chipotle when we don’t teach tops the same? We raise bottoms to see each other as competitors, not for jobs or for accomplishments— which I think can be a good thing— but for the attention of tops. We teach bottoms that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that tops are. BOTTOMinist: a person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the bottom."
-Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
 at the change of the marriage reference.
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Member Since: 12/1/2010
Posts: 23,572
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Quote:
Originally posted by SmokeOnDiamonds
That's gross, why would anybody stick their Dick in a guy's ass where he poops from |
Educate yourself 
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Originally posted by Samuel
"We teach bottoms to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to bottoms, ‘You can have femininity, but not too much. You should aim to be MASC4MASC, but not too MASC otherwise you would threaten the top.’ Because I am a bottom, I’m expected to aspire to always keep the bussy clean. I’m expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that keeping the bussy clean is the most important. Well eating chipotle can be a good thing— It can be a source of joy and love and mutual support. But why do we teach bottoms to avoid chipotle when we don’t teach tops the same? We raise bottoms to see each other as competitors, not for jobs or for accomplishments— which I think can be a good thing— but for the attention of tops. We teach bottoms that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that tops are. BOTTOMinist: a person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the bottom."
-Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie |
 this is perfect
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Member Since: 10/27/2006
Posts: 10,536
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Quote:
Originally posted by MusicTalker
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2010
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488 B.o.B - Airplanes (featuring Hayley Williams) $0.69
570 B.o.B - Magic (featuring Rivers Cuomo) $0.69
588 Jason Derulo - Whatcha Say $0.69
674 Bruno Mars - Just the Way You Are
676 Eminem - Not Afraid
708 Adam Lambert - Whataya Want From Me $0.69
721 Enrique Iglesias - I Like It (featuring Pitbull) $0.69
767 Eminem - Love the Way You Lie (featuring Rihanna)
776 Mike Posner - Cooler Than Me (Single Mix) $0.69
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113 Foster the People - Pumped Up Kicks $0.69
244 Adele - Someone Like You
387 JAY Z & Kanye West - ****** In Paris $0.69
512 Gym Class Heroes - Stereo Hearts (featuring Adam Levine) $0.69
607 Adele - Rolling In the Deep
626 Rihanna - S&M $0.69
730 Jason Aldean - Dirt Road Anthem
799 Maroon 5 - Moves Like Jagger (featuring Christina Aguilera)
888 Lady Gaga - Yoü & I $0.69
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226 Jason Mraz - I Won't Give Up $0.69
290 Bruno Mars - Locked Out of Heaven $0.69
375 Taylor Swift - I Knew You Were Trouble
497 David Guetta - Titanium (featuring Sia)
574 Train - Drive By $0.69
683 Phillip Phillips - Home
706 Maroon 5 - One More Night
725 One Direction - What Makes You Beautiful
814 Taylor Swift - We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together
850 Adele - Set Fire to the Rain
966 Gotye - Somebody that I Used to Know (featuring Kimbra)
973 Whitney Houston - I Will Always Love You
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206 Lorde - Royals
235 Eminem - Rap God
252 OneRepublic - Counting Stars
274 Imagine Dragons - Radioactive
302 Imagine Dragons - Demons
310 Pitbull - Timber (featuring Ke$ha)
326 A Great Big World & Christina Aguilera - Say Something
349 Katy Perry - Roar
386 Passenger - Let Her Go
388 One Direction - Story of My Life
403 Avicii - Wake Me Up
516 Bruno Mars - Treasure $0.69
531 Eminem - The Monster (featuring Rihanna)
534 Bruno Mars - When I Was Your Man
583 Drake - Hold On, We're Going Home (featuring Majid Jordan)
614 P!nk - Just Give Me a Reason (featuring Nate Reuss)
615 Macklemore & Ryan Lewis - Can't Hold Us (featuring Ray Dalton)
673 Rihanna - Stay (featuring Mikky Ekko)
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by AMENHOOKER
'Bottom' alludes to feminity, apparently, and we live in an unfortunate misogynistic world where anything slightly feminine is looked down upon.
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This was the correct answer 
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Member Since: 3/19/2012
Posts: 7,835
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Quote:
Originally posted by SmokeOnDiamonds
That's gross, why would anybody stick their Dick in a guy's ass where he poops from |
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