I plan to do it when I'm financially stable and live alone. I don't want to DEPEND on my religious mother when I officially tell her (she knows already) cuz she would make my life hell. I'd never tell my grandparents cuz it's none of their business and they wouldn't take it well.

Mistery is art... So let it be and people talk that talk

I've known since I was about 13, but didn't come out for the first time until like 3 weeks ago (I'm 22 now). I always thought that I could live lying to myself, but as time went on, I realized that's not possible. And I read this quote from someone online that said "Once you care more about how you feel, and not about what others think about you, you're ready to come out".

So, I sent a text to my best friend saying I had to tell her something, and she replied right away asking "What?". I wrote her saying she probably already knew, but that I'm into guys. And then the bitch didn't reply for like an hour and I was freaking out, thinking I just lost my best friend. Then she replied me saying "Haha, I left my phone in the kitchen. I don't care about that. You are who you are, and nothing changes that!"

Now I have to tell my closest family. I had the opportunity when I was home last weekend, but found it to hard to tell them face to face. It's so weird saying it out loud for the first time, so I think I'll just text them. I think they probably already know, though

Don't plan it. Don't force yourself to do it when a past version of yourself promised yourself that you would. Wait until it feels right and feels natural. You'll feel it coming, like you're on the verge of crying. It's kind of like when you can tell you're gonna vomit.

It's hard to describe. You know when it's time. And if it doesn't feel right now, then the time isn't right now. It's ok to not be ready yet. It seems really daunting now, but the more time passes, the more ready you'll be. The longer you go without having a girlfriend, the more obvious it starts to become. That in itself takes a lot of the pressure off, because it gives them the time to think about it, consider it, realise it and accept it, so that by the time you do tell them, they'll just be happy it's no longer a secret and that you're finally opening up to them. Whereas if you do it at 17, it could be a massive shock and hit them completely left-of-field. It's ok to wait until it's so obvious that they know, and you know they know, and they know you know they know, etc. That's what happened with me.

The most important thing is, if there's any doubt in your mind that your family are the sorts of bigots who'll disown you or kick you out if you're gay, wait until you're financially independent and can support yourself living out of home. Nothing will set you back or make your life harder than being a homeless youth.

Already did, feel amazing about it, my friends have all been supportive and my family doesn't really mind.