Originally posted by IBeMe looooooool you can be feminine and be dominant and you can be submissive yet masculine. so they arnt comparable one is about physical looks and behavior while the other is sexual preference

You can be "masculine" and "submissive" at the same time.




ATRL... The ignorance is too real...

Originally posted by Ferrer You can be "masculine" and "submissive at the same time. ATRL... The ignorance is too real...

But in order to define masculine you'd have to assume gender roles. What is "masculine" and why does it define the male?

Originally posted by Dark Horse But in order to define masculine you'd have to assume gender roles. What is "masculine" and why does it define the male?

When the average person thinks "masculine" they think of a "manly man". He probably doesn't have many feminine mannerisms and the way he speaks and carries himself doesn't fit into the stereotype of what a gay male is/should be, as defined by our society. Whether he is submissive or not, that has to do with his sexual role and what he prefers in the bedroom. I've known feminine men who are the tops in their relationships and vice versa. The two are not correlated. I can be a dominant person sexually, while being a feminine person outside of the bedroom just like I can be a submissive person sexually, while being a masculine person outside of the bedroom.

Originally posted by IBeMe looooooool you can be feminine and be dominant and you can be submissive yet masculine. so they arnt comparable one is about physical looks and behavior while the other is sexual preference

Originally posted by Ferrer When the average person thinks "masculine" they think of a "manly man". He probably doesn't have many feminine mannerisms and the way he speaks and carries himself doesn't fit into the stereotype of what a gay male is/should be, as defined by our society. Whether he is submissive or not, that has to do with his sexual role and what he prefers in the bedroom. I've known feminine men who are the tops in their relationships and vice versa. The two are not correlated. I can be a dominant person sexually, while being a feminine person outside of the bedroom just like I can be a submissive person sexually, while being a masculine person outside of the bedroom.

Originally posted by Dark Horse I think the only problem we have here are the gender roles we assume when we here the terms masculine/feminine. It is not correct to think a man is "manly" for holding a set of ideals placed onto the gender by society. Dominant/submissive don't refer to just sexual roles, but your attitude and personality as well. They are not perfect, but at least they do not assume what makes a man "manly/masculine" is ___ and what makes a female "feminine" is ____.

Originally posted by Maiko feminine does not imply submissive. LET ME TELL YOU. WOO!