Discussion: Do you have social anxiety? - Page 3

Tea

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Originally posted by KingOfTheCastle

If you don't mind me asking, roughly how old are you? Because I don't know any people my age in their late teens or twenties, who play board games now a days.

Also, the fact that you went on Craigslist of all places to find a friend, not something else, and I have to be honest, a bit strange and unusual. Of course there's nothing wrong with having another friend, I could use some more since I also suffer from anxiety and social anxiety.

I'm 19. I love board and card games but everyone my age seems to just want to smoke pot and get drunk, both of which I don't really have an interest in. I've even contemplated doing pot just so I can make friends.

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Originally posted by bornbrave

What kind of reputation has craigslist? craigslist is for gays or what? someone explain to me, I don't know much about it, I only have used manhunt but they always delete my account because of my photos

Craigslist has a pretty bad reputation, it's kind of a last resort thing. They have a hookup section, but it's trashier and sketchier than Grindr/ManHunt/otherapps. So there definitely are more freaks on craiglist than other sites. There is also a section where you can meet people for purely platonic reasons and that's the area I posted in.

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Originally posted by KatyLegendperry

I used to have so many friends and was so sociable but I moved to a new neighbourhood for middle school and didn't know anybody and it completely ruined me. People started calling me a loner and bullied me a lot. I was even assaulted one time. I went from being the most popular person in my grade to having no friends whatsoever. Ever since then I have only had a few close friends and I find it really hard to trust people and not feel nervous around them. I really want to be sociable and have lots of friends but I can't

Be happy you have a few close friends! I don't have anyone I can call up and hang out with on the weekends

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Originally posted by HandsOn

Yes. There's a great forum you can visit dedicated solely to this topic as well: http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/

omg I used to frequent that site. I didn't find it very helpful :/.

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Originally posted by Marq

I used to struggle with social anxiety a couple of years ago, but these days I've learned to cope with it.

how did you cope with it?

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Originally posted by INA

Yes I have it and it sucks. I never had it and it just got worse during high school all my friends that I had are practically gone. Every time I'm in a social situation I just can't stop thinking about what I said or what they think of me. When someone says something to me or looks at me I start coming up with 300 reasons why they did it.

I cant look anyone straight in the eye except for my family and a few friends. I even get gassy when I'm sitting too close to others, I just get anxiety and I can't control it. It's so embarrassing and sometimes I have these attacks like I cant even breathe and my throat feels like its clenching. I want therapy already

I dont think craigs list is the most reliable source in getting a friendship, but I do think internet friends are good. The internet is where I feel free and where I gain the most friends cause I dont feel like I'm being judged. So start there....but craigslist...maybe not aha

edit: I also cant make new friends because I freeze up completely and never know what to say so thats that as well SUCKS

I want real life friends though. Internet friends only fulfill the need for social interaction so much. I'd rather meet and hangout with a person irl than chat on the forums.

BabyCantYouSee

No, but I do get somewhat nervous when I'm doing presentations.

Tea

So I just got back from our hangout. It was enjoyable, I'm glad I went. We hung out for a little over two hours. We played card games and a board game. I don't think he enjoys card and board games as much as me. He's a pothead (I'm not) and says he likes to do outdoors stuff. I don't really do outdoors stuff though I certainly wouldn't mind. I enjoy fishing and **** but he would have to be the one to invite me to do that stuff since I don't really know how to start doing it.

I am a little confused about something though. So his mom originally contacted me saying her son needs a friend since he mostly just watches movies. But while I was talking to him it sounds like he has a bunch of pothead friends?? If you already have friends why did you need to contact me? idk if he just doesn't hangout with them anymore or something.

I would like to hangout with him again but I would just have us play more card and board games which I don't think he'll enjoy very much. I don't know if he'll hit me up to hang out. I'm thinking of texting him something along the lines of:

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hey did you want to hang out again? I know you like outdoorsy stuff and wouldn't mind fishing or whatever else, though I haven't really done much outdoors so I wouldn't know where to start lol

Do you guys think that's good?

Tea

I'm also going to play cards with some guys tomorrow. The guy that contacted me is a middle-aged gay man but he says most of the people who he hangs with are mid twenties to early thirties (I'm 19). He calls it a "gay family support group". I'm not specifically looking for gay friends or a "gay family support group" but whatever. This would be my first time hanging out with a bunch of gay guys and I hope they're not hot or else I'll feel so ****ing self conscious.

■YoungCalifornia■

Where do I go on Craiglists to find a friend? I need a friend to play XBOX with

Tea

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Originally posted by SmokeOnDiamonds

Where do I go on Craiglists to find a friend? I need a friend to play XBOX with

under personals click "platonic"

kylespearsfenty

I'm very uncomfortable around certain people (not everyone is very approachable, honestly). I also hate being in big crowds and around a lot of noise. I don't really have anxiety though. Maybe something minor

■YoungCalifornia■

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Originally posted by Tea

I'm also going to play cards with some guys tomorrow. The guy that contacted me is a middle-aged gay man but he says most of the people who he hangs with are mid twenties to early thirties (I'm 19). He calls it a "gay family support group". I'm not specifically looking for gay friends or a "gay family support group" but whatever. This would be my first time hanging out with a bunch of gay guys and I hope they're not hot or else I'll feel so ****ing self conscious.

Really?

I would LOVE to be surrounded by hot gay friends.

Tea

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Originally posted by SmokeOnDiamonds

Really?

I would LOVE to be surrounded by hot gay friends.

I feel more comfortable around average/below average gay guys. If a gay guy is like hot and muscular I feel so uncomfortable and think they're judging the hell outta me

If they're straight I don't care too much since they probably don't give a **** how I look since I'm a guy.

CoS

Yup, it has gotten worse over the years. I feel pathetic everytime I approach a counter in a store/restaurant since I always feel nervous, I always rehearse what I have to say otherwise I get tongue tied. Doing new things scare me too, so my life has been pretty routine. For example, I used to volunteer at some organization once, it was fine at first since what I was doing required no social interaction. Then they wanted me to do some "telemarketing" (or call donors, etc.), the first call was such an awful experience I left the organization without any word...I felt awful (still do)...I'd postore but I don't really feel like spilling my private life on the net

■YoungCalifornia■

I just looked on Craiglist under "platonic" and they all want sex