Depends.
As a gay man you may want to have a boyfriend, who you'd like to protect etc. whereas females for the most part would like to feel safe with their man.
There are a lot of gays that feel as strong as a Straight man, and gays that do feel safe with another guy ..
idk how else to explain it but yeah. . .

But there are also a lot of similar things between females and gay males when it comes to what u need from a man.