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Originally posted by Sam Jay
You're just making assumptions though. You're right, interests don't define sexuality. And sexuality inversely doesn't define interests. Who's to say that they aren't just a bunch of guys who prefer men as sexual partners to women, but also enjoy drinking beer, talking about hunting and the military etc. That's most likely all nurture related interests, anyway.
I'm sure nobody made you feel as if you had to "pretend" to like pop music and sign up for ATRL because it's fitting the stereotype?
I honestly don't understand why so many gays have this mentality of "all gays are naturally effeminate and if a gay isn't they're just suppressing it because they want to be seen as socially acceptable." It's not always about social acceptance. Self acceptance is far more important anyway, and if you know what you like, and it's guys and guns, then so be it.
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I never said all gays are naturally effeminate, nor do I think that, because that's ignorant. What I am/was saying - is that it's the effeminate guys that are always labelled as just "gay". No secondary tag to hide behind, from all the negative connotations/stereotypes that come with being a gay man. Plain ole' gay! These guys want to differentiate themselves from that, which comes across as offensive to me. As if there's something wrong/not OK to be likened to that kind of person. When the thing is... they are gay! So it's stupid to me, for them to want to try and label themselves as something more "masculine", when those effeminate guys are also men, regardless of either's interests, or how they talk, or how they walk. Shouldn't that be the important thing? Plus, the term "bros"? Are they forever 21, in a frat house or something?
The fact that these anomalies are gaining tact is not a good thing for the gay community, imo. It seems we're getting what we want in acceptance in a broad sense, from the general public, but are more than happy to divide and segregate ourselves from the inside. Perhaps that's just human nature though? Personally I think the men that don't need an airbag to admit their gay are much more manly than those who do, but I can't speak for everyone and would like to avoid being a douche about it, so I'll stop...
