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Discussion: Is "Skinny-Shaming" OK?
Member Since: 2/25/2012
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No. Normally "you look so skinny" is meant as a compliment for women. People go on diets and workout to be skinny and toned.
fattys stay losing tho
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Member Since: 9/14/2010
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Originally posted by Haburo
No kind of shaming is okay
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This.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
Posts: 3,183
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Originally posted by EdgeOfAddiction
Sure, cuz we don't care. The standard of beauty holds skinny on a higher pedestal so the fatties can take a go at us if they want. It's always a cute attempt.
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this. fatties stay losing 
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by Lambo.
No. Normally "you look so skinny" is meant as a compliment for women. People go on diets and workout to be skinny and toned.
fattys stay losing tho
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it depends
the norm is: be skinny, but have fat people features
that's impossible, that's why we go to the gym, so we can get skinny and have those "features", but mass instead of fat, like big butt, legs, breast, etc
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Member Since: 1/3/2014
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Originally posted by plug-it-up
What about when a skinny person goes to the doctor and they tell you to eat more or they think you have an eating disorder just because you're naturally skinny (I've had the doctor talk to my parents without me knowing to ask them if I eat enough)? Or when you go somewhere and talk to someone that tells you 'eat a cheeseburger', 'do you even eat?', etc. It's not just the 'real women have curves' comment; that's just one example of it. I'm not saying that those are more significant than the problems with people who are considered overweight, but most people don't realize that thin people have issues as well.
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Again, I'm talking about micro (this cute little story you just provided) vs. macro (discrimination embedded into society). I would tell them, that's unfortunate, but at least take comfort that, in society's eyes, you're not going to be constantly attacked about your weight. Yes, there are times where you will face belittling, but it does not even begin to compare with how fat people are treated by society.
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Originally posted by swissman
So if you are a skinny teenage girl with a flat chest and a flat butt, and you hear Nicki Minaj singing "**** them skinny bitches" and all those other lyrics that make her feel incomplete and inconsequential, are you supposed to just feel good about yourself and like the song anyway?
Also it's not sexism, unless you think that fat men do not face the problem of fat-shaming, and that skinny men do not feel inadequate next to their muscular counterparts.
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Oh, but it is. Usually these comments are reserved for women. There is no "perfect" body type for women; they will always be attacked. If you hear that, just ignore it. Nicki is turning the entire institution on its head. I know it's shocking for skinny people to be hearing "*** them skinny bitches," but society has been doing it for decades towards full-figured people.
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Member Since: 1/2/2014
Posts: 18,038
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Originally posted by KingOfTheCastle
Fat-shaming is worse than skinny-shaming.
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it isn't a competition on which is worse or more rampant, they are both wrong period.
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Member Since: 3/27/2012
Posts: 18,963
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Originally posted by DirtyPony87
Oh, but it is. Usually these comments are reserved for women. There is no "perfect" body type for women; they will always be attacked. If you hear that, just ignore it. Nicki is turning the entire institution on its head. I know it's shocking for skinny people to be hearing "*** them skinny bitches," but society has been doing it for decades towards full-figured people.
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Two wrongs do not make a right.
And while it is sexist that women face more intense body scrutiny, shaming someone for being fat is not a gender specific issue, so it is not a case of sexism.
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Member Since: 5/7/2011
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Originally posted by DirtyPony87
I know it's shocking for skinny people to be hearing "*** them skinny bitches," but society has been doing it for decades towards full-figured people.
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Well that's ok then! 
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Member Since: 8/31/2013
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no skinny people deserve respect
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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it was taking too long to get reported
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Member Since: 12/4/2010
Posts: 37,894
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Originally posted by VyktorJonas
what about when people are made fun of for "looking like a stick"
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"looking like slender man"?
you're saying it's ok?

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Sis, this is coming from someone who IS thin—there's no such thing as "skinny shaming"
Fat shaming is more that just a hurtful word or two. Learn about thin privilege first.
I don't have time for these skinny tears.

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Member Since: 2/17/2010
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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Originally posted by Sasha Pieterse
the thing is (and imo it's important for a distinction to be made here) that skinny shaming is only occasional comments. hurtful and inappropriate? absolutely. but, it's on the same level as "reverse racism" which isn't really racism.
society loves you when you're thin; they make clothes your size, you can go to the doctors without worrying that they'll blame it all on your weight, you can eat whatever you can without feeling like people are going to judge you, you're allowed to be comfortable in your own body because society thinks it's beautiful, you can post pictures of yourself in your bikini/underwear on social media without them deleting it for inappropriate content (this actually happened to an overweight girl).
just because someone makes an ignorant comment about how real women have curves doesn't mean that you're a victim of institutionalized body shaming.
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I just wanna say that 3/5 of this does not apply to me. It's all because I'm in the DANGEROUSLY skinny zone (15.6 bmi), though.
Skinny shaming exists in very small doses but it's not a problem. It's usually the skinnier you are the worse it is. It's not something that's a big deal at all though.
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Member Since: 4/18/2012
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Originally posted by Doc
Sis, this is coming from someone who IS thin—there's no such thing as "skinny shaming"
Fat shaming is more that just a hurtful word or two. Learn about thin privilege first.
I don't have time for these skinny tears.

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Spill it sis.
Fat-shaming is a league of its own
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Member Since: 3/27/2012
Posts: 18,963
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Originally posted by Doc
Sis, this is coming from someone who IS thin—there's no such thing as "skinny shaming"
Fat shaming is more that just a hurtful word or two. Learn about thin privilege first.
I don't have time for these skinny tears.

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Just because you are thin and are lucky enough to not have experienced any shame behind it, does not mean it doesn't exist. So long as one person has felt that, it exists, and therefore it is not ok.
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Member Since: 8/6/2012
Posts: 20,242
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Originally posted by Miley Ray Cyrus
this. fatties stay losing 
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with this attitude who is really losing tho?. I would rather hang with someone who has some fat on them than someone who thinks they are superior due to body type. Neither one is cute.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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It's not okay, but at the end of the day people need to realize that being shamed for being skinny and being shamed for being fat are two completely different things. Being fat in society is 1000x harder.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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No, it's not okay. Fat people need to work on themselves instead of hating on skinny people.
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Member Since: 12/4/2010
Posts: 37,894
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Originally posted by swissman
Just because you are thin and are lucky enough to not have experienced any shame behind it, does not mean it doesn't exist. So long as one person has felt that, it exists, and therefore it is not ok.
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Sis.
Fat-shaming is a societal problem that has implications that run far deeper than mean words. It completely affects how an individual walks through and experiences life. People get made fun of for everything and anything—but for Americans, being made fun of for being thin, being white, being a male, being straight, or being a Christian does NOT run deep. One can get made fun of for that, but then move on with their lives, reaping the benefits of their thin, white, male, straight, Christian privilege. Overweight people, racial minorities, women, homosexuals, and non-Christians do NOT have that privilege. Making fun of someone for being one of those is MORE than just hurtful words—it completely affects and changes how they live in our society.
So no, "skinny shaming" does not exist. That term, much like reverse racism, implies that skinny people are being put at a disadvantage in society because of the "bullying", and that simply is NOT true.

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