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Discussion: Straight guys, do you like it when gays flirt with you?
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I usually don't care but if the person tries to makes advances, because I'm generally a nice person, I'm done.
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Originally posted by Guernica
I'm a girl but I think most straight men would get offended and grossed out because unfortunately a lot of straight men are insecure of their sexuality and would worry people would think they're gay if they didn't react negatively towards another man making advances. If you know a guy is straight it's best not to even try it in case they have a bad reaction.
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Originally posted by Bang Up
Straight guys don't like guys hitting on them because they don't like being treated the way they treat females.  |
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Originally posted by DirtyPony87
So, considering this, does the problem lie with the gay men who flirt or the straight men?
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It lies with society in general, which currently views homosexuality as universally degrading to men, while not nearly as much with women (at least if she's the palatable fem/"lipstick lesbian"). As much as we've civilized ourselves over the hundreds of thousands of years we've been here, we are still just animals -- human males, like any other animal, feel the instinctual need to 'protect' and display their masculinity, and our society has deemed homosexuality to be an un-masculine behavior.
You could see it work in an opposite way in imperial Rome, in which it was deemed the masculine thing for a man to desire to sexually dominate both women and other males, and indeed, a large percentage of males engaged in homosexual behavior with younger/submissive partners for a time... while of course, free adult males willingly being the passive (un-masculine) partner were shunned and considered criminals.
The gay man who flirts is only to blame if they are persistent to the point of being rude/a nuisance, which goes for people of all genders and orientations tbh.
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Member Since: 11/16/2011
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I, a straight man, love it!
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Member Since: 6/30/2012
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Straight guys, do you like it when gays flirt with you?
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I like attention, so yes I guess
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Member Since: 7/31/2010
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For every girl that hits on me I have 20 guys...
so far ive had one girl... 
I dont mind if guys do, i just always feel bad cause im like ._______. sorry im str8... like I feel bad cause i mean then what do u say after that?
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Originally posted by BadBitches
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But yeah, I'm Gay and I always fall in love with str8 guys. And somehow they start flirting with me and I'm like... but your str8. I'm confused  Why are men so complicated?
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Member Since: 7/31/2010
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Originally posted by MonsterPaw
But yeah, I'm Gay and I always fall in love with str8 guys. And somehow they start flirting with me and I'm like... but your str8. I'm confused Why are men so complicated? |
in my expirience I flirt back to be nice/didnt know they were flirting ("I like ur hair" etc)
also ive flirted back to get things (extra tickets, cut in line... )
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Member Since: 8/22/2009
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Originally posted by #JC
I'm asexual so I feel uncomfrotable when anyone tries to flirt with me, tbh  |
Asexual or asocial?
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I'd probably feel slightly uncomfortable.
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Member Since: 8/22/2009
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Originally posted by Alejandrawrrr
It lies with society in general, which currently views homosexuality as universally degrading to men, while not nearly as much with women (at least if she's the palatable fem/"lipstick lesbian"). As much as we've civilized ourselves over the hundreds of thousands of years we've been here, we are still just animals -- human males, like any other animal, feel the instinctual need to 'protect' and display their masculinity, and our society has deemed homosexuality to be an un-masculine behavior.
You could see it work in an opposite way in imperial Rome, in which it was deemed the masculine thing for a man to desire to sexually dominate both women and other males, and indeed, a large percentage of males engaged in homosexual behavior with younger/submissive partners for a time... while of course, free adult males willingly being the passive (un-masculine) partner were shunned and considered criminals.
The gay man who flirts is only to blame if they are persistent to the point of being rude/a nuisance, which goes for people of all genders and orientations tbh.
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It doesnt make sense if you consider gay men as human males as well. I think the problem lies in the society, the way we live, not in "protecting and displaying their masculinity".
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Originally posted by meril
It doesnt make sense if you consider gay men as human males as well. I think the problem lies in the society, the way we live, not in "protecting and displaying their masculinity".
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Well I think there's been plenty of research that shows gay and straight brains of the same gender aren't exactly alike.
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Savic and her colleague Per Lindstrom first used magnetic resonance imaging, or MRI, to compare the symmetry of the brains of 25 straight men and 25 straight women with those of 20 gay men and 20 gay women.
Gay men tended to have brains that were more like those of straight women than of straight men -- the right and left sides were about the same size, the researchers found. Gay women's brains tended to be more like those of straight men than of straight women -- the right side tended to be slightly larger than the left.
Next, the researchers used positron emission tomography (PET) scans to examine how a part of the brain involved in processing emotions -- the amygdala -- was connected to other brain regions. Again they found that gay men tended to be more like straight women, with a stronger link between the amygdala and regions involved in emotions. Gay women tended to be more like straight men, with stronger connections to motor functions.
Savic and Lindstrom stressed that their findings need to be confirmed by additional research and that it remains unclear how the differences might affect behavior.
While other researchers agreed, some said the findings about the amygdala could help explain why gay men tend to respond to emotional situations more like women and gay women more like men, and could even play a role in their sexual orientation.
"This ancient structure is involved in 'orienting' our attention to biologically important stimuli in our environment (such as attractive partners . . .)," Qazi Rahman, who studies sexual orientation at Queen Mary, University of London, wrote in an e-mail.
Others said that that interpretation was highly speculative, but at the very least the findings support the idea that there tend to be fundamental differences in brain structure, supporting the idea that sexual orientation is inborn.
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http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn...062202006.html
Just one article, you could Google it and find tons, tbh.
I agree the problem lies with society, but in ADDITION to evolutionary behaviors and biology in general. There's a reason why (heterosexual) males throughout history have done whatever was deemed the masculine behavior of the time, and why animals all throughout the animal kingdom do so as well, be it wrestling/sparring to show dominance over other males, evolving and displaying their bright colors, etc. For us it's a luxury at this point, but throughout the animal kingdom over the hundreds of millions of years we've been here, displaying that masculinity has often meant the difference between passing on one's genes or not.
The purely societal explanation is absolutely part of it (the most obvious one), but it fails to explain why pretty much ALL throughout the world, across all continents, in regions with zero contact with one another, it has popped up that feminine behavior in men is bad and a warrants less respect than masculinity. The argument from evolution/biology offers some explanation for that, and I feel, explains why straight men are placed into a position in which they feel they have a certain standard of masculinity to uphold, by reacting strongly to shut down suspicion of them being gay (a behavior unfortunately associated with femininity).
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Ask this on bodybuilding.com.
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Originally posted by RatedG²
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Besides like 2 people and me, there are no straights here
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Originally posted by cOe
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Questioning our heterosexuality sis?
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Member Since: 4/24/2011
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All my straight friends are the ones that flirt with me.. so i would say they enjoy the attention.
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