I've been curious to find this out. I mean, I know some gay men feel pressured to marry women because of society, family religion etc. or for whatever other reason.

BUT since gay men are not sexually/physically attracted to women, how do they marry them & keep the love life going? How can they be sexually intimate with women over a long period of time?

Like, wouldn't it be hard for them to perform the sexual acts?

It always confuses me.

Share & keep it clean.

if you're horny, you'll do anything.
And if you live with someone long enough, you'll love them like your bestfriend. You don't want to lose your bff, do you?

Yeah but I also don't feel the urge to get intimate with my bff either. You know what I mean?

And even if you live with someone for a long time, it doesn't mean they will start to appear sexually attractive to you.

bff with benefit

make it work sis

Exactly what M4L said in the first line. I asked the married guy I know and he said it isn't as hard as people think.

Some just can't accept themselves I guess Like some posters above said, maybe it isn't as hard as we may think.

That's what I ask myself

They probably just shut their eyes and think of men when they're getting down with a woman tbh

They just can't accept their sexuality but they always end up having side relationships with men.

But that's not the point.

How do they get aroused? I mean how is it possible?

Take some erectile dysfunction medication and close your eyes.

Imagination, A person's imagination can help coping throughout reality even if it's hard, unsatisfactory, and unpleasant for the person to move on at it. Besides, Gay men can use pills or watch gay **** to be aroused and be able to perform with woman.

This question is something i ask everyday because I know a lot of them who have married women and I'm just like why. My ex bf is now a preacher with a wife and kids and he called me the other day trying to ****

Must be tough tbh.

Deep denial.

This is the money point.

A gay man won't necessarily get a hard-on as frequently (or at all) as straight men when exposed to hot women, but he can still definitely feel a non-sexual attraction to a woman before any idea of sexual intercourse. The outcome of marriage and sex plays out when the idea of a "normal" life can be positively reinforced by society and family expectations. Eventually the deep attraction and liking to a person leads to more physical attraction as time passes.

If it works for you, that's great. But if you're hating your life, it's not fair to you or your spouse.