My boyfriend is 7 years older than me and we have been together a year and five months and were engaged. I know that everyone has a sexual past but my boyfriends past is just radiculous. So radiculous that I would rather not go into depth about it. The problem I have is that we've talked about it and he knows that it bothers me and for that reason he doesn't bring it up because he know that I will upset me. But the thing is I feel it sinking back into my self consciousness and I don't want it to because all it did was cause problems. I even got him to apologize about his past which is what I thought I wanted for the longest time. But I want more than just "I'm sorry for my past.". Sometimes I just want to ask him "Why we're you so gross?" But I know that would really hurt him. I hear the way he talks about his friends in college and about how they would **** anything that came there way and it's kind of like he's mocking their current relationship or mocking the current one that his friend is dating to be more exact but the thing is I feel as if I'm In the same boat as that other person and I don't like it. I don't want people to talk about me and my boyfriend like that. I can just imagine people saying"Ryan might be all sprung over Colby(me) but you should have seen him in college." . Sometimes I don't think it's fair that I waited for him but he didn't wait for me. I wanted nothing more than to be in a monogamous relationship which is why I didn't sleep around. Because sleeping around didn't fulfill me in anyway. Idk why I can't just be happy, he's given me the monogamous relationship I've always wanted and for some reason I'm still not satisfied. Help

Btw, I'm the first relationship he has ever had.

As long as he is clean and faithful to you, it shouldn't matter.

It could bother me.

That's his past honey, you've been together for quite a while already, I take it he's monogamous now? I don't see the problem tbh, it should be reassuring that he settles down with you when you know that he was very different in the past

This should be a blog

I pretty much agree with this.

The past is the past. I had a pretty "fun" past but Im committed to my bf, so thats all that matters really.

TBH - YOU'RE more likely to ruin the relationship because of your own insecurities about his past.

Short answer but the truth right here. The past doesn't matter too much for me.

no, only if his past visits the present.

mess at this being reported.

My own sexual history isn't something to necessarily be proud of, so no I don't think my boyfriend's past would bother me. Like the first poster said, as long as he's faithful whatever he has done in the past shouldn't be an issue.

His past shouldn't really concern you.

Personally, I don't care how promiscuous my partners have been in the past as long as he gets tested to make sure he doesn't have any diseases. Lots of guys are sexually messy in college and if you're not a promiscous person yourself than its normal to be turned off by that. But the past is in the past so I think as long as you know he is different now and that he has changed you shouldn't worry about what he used to be like.

Yes, he's monogamous now. And you make a good point. Which is why i don't understand why it still bothers me. I should just be happy.

His past doesn't matter if you trust him now? If you can't trust him due to his past - sorry to say it, but it's best for everyone it ends sooner rather than later.

My bae has a colourful past, as do I, it doesn't bother me as I trust him.

It is his raunchy PAST sex infested life not yours so why are you upset about ancient history ? As-long he is not straying in his relationship with you and committed to you, that what matters the most. Your insecurities of him being not faithful to you will either lead him to stray or dumb you, or in the worse case both. Mess at you making him apologize at what he was before. Smh

OMGGG this can't be real life. You literally sound like Elliot Rodger and his s l u t-shaming, misogynistic ********. Your feelings of self-consciousness are valid but this statement right here is so troublesome, you honestly scare me

Sis, the past shall remain in the past.
Get over it.
If he treats you right and you love him why keep bringing his past up?
That's not even healthy, in any possible way (even if he had a glorious past).
Move on and forget what other people say about him and/or his past !

Tbh, you should be happy that he was honest with you because some people would not even tell you how bad their past was, or they would gloss over it. So its good that he's honest and upfront.

Secondly, most people in this world have made mistakes. Its going to be very hard to find someone with an ideal sexual past. You may not like it, by there's nothing you can do about it. Just try to focus on the present and stop thinking about the past so Much because as mentioned above, tour insecurities will end up destroying the relationship.

Madonna stans on the ball

Mine is 2 years older than me and I'm the first guy he's ever dated. He's had a few girlfriends but he never did anything with them. So no I'm good