Discussion: Your Coming Out Experience - Page 3

KatyLegendperry

Neither of my parents are homophobic and my mom has expressed support for gays, but my dad (even though I'm pretty sure he isn't actually homophobic) sometimes makes fun of them and has used the word ****** before so I'm not quite sure what to do. I haven't told anyone who I know in real life and its something I think about a lot but I know I'm nowhere near ready to tell them. I'm either going to find a smart way to tell them once I move out or I'm just going to secretly date guys for a while than marry a girl who doesn't like to have sex because I'm romantically attracted to girls but not sexually.

The problem is that I'm really good at acting straight and I have dated girls in the past so I know my parents are completely oblivious towards it and they're going to be shocked when I tell them

My cousin is extremely homophobic though and I know that if I came out I would never be able to show my face to him again and my parents are very close with him so thats going to be a problem. Not to mention I dated my best friend (a girl) and if I came out to her she would probably think that she made me gay

■YoungCalifornia■

I'm still in the closet. My parents are too thug, so if they found out I like guys, they would chop my body up and throw me in the ocean

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Maiko

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Originally posted by SmokeOnDiamonds

I'm still in the closet. My parents are too thug, so if they found out I like guys, they would chop my body up and throw me in the ocean

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My dad is Guyanese West Indian, they don't really play that at all. He literally told me that he would chop my head off with a Machete if he found out that I was with a guy, but ultimately he ended up accepting me more than I accept myself.

Just give things time and if you're still living with your peeps wait until you have moved out and are well established.

jessescott

my coming out... my mom said she knew when i was little, my dad did not have a problem and the very few people at school i know have been accepting. i fell so sorry for all of your struggles but it will get better , do not give up.

■YoungCalifornia■

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Originally posted by maiko

My dad is Guyanese West Indian, they don't really play that at all. He literally told me that he would chop my head off with a Machete if he found out that I was with a guy, but ultimately he ended up accepting me more than I accept myself.

Just give things time and if you're still living with your peeps wait until you have moved out and are well established.

Yeah, that's what I'ma do. My parents don't play that at all too, especially my Dad! I've never dated a guy before because what if we get in an argument and he blackmails me by telling my parents I'm bi and showing them proof (text messages, pics) I'll be dead for sure and no one on ATRL would know

. I've only dated girls. Thanks for the advice though

ALA

I came out my sophomore year of high school. Most of my friends did the whole 'we already knew' thing (which is areally rude and disrespectful thing to say when you're trying to tell something you've had difficulty telling anyone) and my mom took it pretty hard and told me I still had the chance to choose the right path and that we'd go to church.