|t's a well known fact that once you leave school/college/university, your network deteriorates rapidly and your pool of friends significantly shrinks. Those of you who are in your 20s and have already/are about to leave school, what do you do to ensure your social life stays alive now that you can no longer make friends with the person sitting next to you in class?

Ngl, my social contacts is running dangerously close to zero. I need some ideas tbh

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Sociologists say that one of the most fundamental things in developing a friendship is recurring interactions. You can meet someone on a night out when you go clubbing, and because you're drunk then you're not shy, and you have the best night ever and are like "oh my god! I love you! I wanna be your best friend! What's your number? Add me on facebook!" and then you just never see that person ever again. It happens so much. That's why people make their close friends at school. Because you see the same people five days a week and then you organise to do stuff with them on weekends.

Honestly, recurring social interactions are the only way a solid friendship is built. Consequently your future friends come from the next step up from school/University - work. You make friends where you work, and then you become friends with their friends, and just make new friends through someone you share as a mutual friend. Also if you get in a relationship, you make new friends through your partner.

Basically!

That's unfortunate. The only people I see on a regular basis anymore are my work colleagues and my housemates. At work we're too busy working to have any meaningful conversation, and my housemates are all British and have been friends with each other for months/years and have their own little clique.

But my sister went to clubs and she made friends with a few people and they stayed friends for YEARS. True story. Of course they were all a terrible influence, but bitch at least had someone to run to when she snuck out of the house every night.

this killed me omg

I hope it's not a nude show cause I wouldn't do that to attract friends. Honestly, I feel like I have not zero friends negative something to be precise. I can't afford to go out clubbing or hanging out at events, and I'm really nice and approachable, but people still don't wanna be friends with me. -_-

spread them cheeks, and smile

The fact that you're leaving school/collage/uni doesn't mean necessarily that you have to lose them as friends. I'm still friend with my fellow class members and even if the relation is not what it used to be, we still arrange to see each other whenever we're in the same city, and I know that if I have some problems I could call them.

But, interestingly, even if I'm not a really social person (hate clubs, don't drink, prefer be alone rather than going out...) my best friends are not people I met in school, so it depends on life occurences...

it is but it's nice because they tip you with coins and you make money off of it.

they have little add ons on the site so people can subscribe to your channel. this way it's like you have recurring customers and over time they just become kinda like friends. I never show my face tho, or try not to. PM me if you want the link

uni and/or work

Most important thing: You don't MAKE friends. It just happens. You do your thing (go to collage/university, go to clubs etc. ) and it will happen on its own

I'm not sharting you sistrens but I gonna cry due to my social life

Sleep around

No thanks I don't want to catch people's sexual illness and hang around std clincs.

At least you'll know you have something in common

Well, its more than just that but I didn't want to get into all of it in the OP.

Basically, I moved to a different country so I had to say goodbye to all my old friends from home. I finished school a while ago and I only have a couple of friends remaining from back then who still talk to me, but even then we don't see each other much because they've got their own lives/schedules. My very close group of friends that I had all went back to their home country and I'm the only one left. And I had a really good friend before but we lived together for about 3 months and our friendship just deteriorated and died by the time we moved out. So now I've got nothing but a bunch of associates and Facebook friends.

I really need to get back into the swing of things and start building a circle of friends because if I don't I'll be grumbling about how IKEA only makes furniture that can only be assembled by 2 people while I've got no one to help me by the time I'm 40 years old.