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Originally posted by Zylo
Alright then! It's boring as HELL but im going to keep it simple.
In a nutshell, I have a class of some sort. In that class are me and my friends. Also in that class are two guys ("straight boys", if you will  ) who are very close friends (I am friends with both of them, to an extent). And of course, I have friends in that class too.
A couple weeks ago, one of them told me they have a crush on the other as I was walking with my friends. We all laughed about it thinking he was joking, only to realize a couple weeks later through text that he in fact, was not joking  . Of course, out of immaturity or something, my friends ended up telling the other boy. And they were as vocal and non-inconspicuous about it as they could possible be  . The other guy knew exactly what was going on, and that they were telling people. The rest of the day ended up being extremely awkward and quiet for everyone. The other boy (that's not gay) ended up staying around us and we kind of gave the other guy the cold shoulder just to avoid awkwardness. He ended up working with people he didn't really know , avoiding us as well and stuff. It made me feel SO bad.
I'm not out yet (don't drag me), but I really want to say something or help him feel better. However, if I do, rumors and whispers will inevitably start up. My friends are generally being cold to him, but I don't want them to start looking at me weird and giving me the cold shoulder just for trying to help him. I also don't want to loose them as friends (I know, they're terrible,). They believe what they did was the right thing and OK(???). I also don't want the outed guy to feel uncomfortable if I say something, or think that I'm being thirsty either or something  .
Everything is just really awkward, so I don't really know what I could say without making him (the gay one) really uncomfortable. Maybe I'm just over-thinking this because I'm in the closet too but... What should I do? How should I word what I say to the outed guy? What should I say to my friends?  |
i'm really bad at this kind of stuff but i'll bump this so people can still see it without going through the pages
and even though i'm not good at it i feel like you'd feel the least bad about yourself if you helped him and if you don't you'll probably really dislike yourself in hindsight if you do absolutely nothing to help him
idk what you should say to him though, but maybe just try to say you support him and will actually be his friend through this time? you might end up gaining a closer friendship that you could really value if you say/do that through this whole situation
maybe I just say that because I'm lonely
as for your friends, I think they should be able to handle you disagreeing with them on one thing. you can just say you don't think they're being fair if they ask but don't try to start a fight and make a drama about it, and just try to avoid talking to them about it if you can unless they're like, outright harassing the guy or something; if they're doing that you should definitely tell them to stop
that's the best I can do, hope it's helpful
