Discussion: The Real Reason Gay Men Don't Get Fat

Mystic Warrior

I'm not sure if this has ever been posted or if you guys have ever seen it but with the way some gays on here go in on body image... honestly, it makes me ashamed to be apart of the LGBT community. We're ridiculed and treated as second-class citizens everyday. You'd think we'd learn to be more accepting that everyone comes packaged differently...

this article spills the tea.

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There is only one thing that keeps gay men in shape: fear. Yes, every gay—at least those of the stereotypical abdominal-obsessed physique that populates Fire Island and Palm Springs—is brought about because gay men are afraid that they will be alone for the rest of their lives. If a gay man is not "serving body" while competing to find a trick or boyfriend in one of the more muscle-bound climates of gay culture, he will be sorely shut out. That is why gay men don't get fat, because if they don't have pecs, guns, and glutes, they're going home alone.

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Still, gay men come in all shapes and sizes (embrace the rainbow, people) but still gay culture and iconography is largely dominated by the same juiced-out body type (and awful tribal tattoos) that you'd find on Jersey Shore. While there are plenty of average-physiqued homosexuals (who barely merit mentioning) there has been a reaction to all this body fascism over the past so many years. Yes, the "bear" movement, spearheaded by gay men who are hairier and chubbier than average, is forever gaining steam. Mostly it's because these guys gave up on the regular competition and decided to host a competition of their own. Theirs, instead of relying on protein shakes and bicep curls, relies on barbecue ribs and beer guts. These men only socialize (and sexualize) with other men that are as big and burly as they are. While they might be reversing the normal aesthetic ideals of gay culture and American culture at large, they still discriminate just as much based on physicality as their circuit party-loving brethren.

Link to full article: http://gawker.com/5811493/the-real-r...n-dont-get-fat

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Flawfree

I don't agree with the article, but i can see what logic they are trying to use. It doesn't hold up though, because for a lot of people the fear of ending up alone can lead to being depressed, and if you're the type of person who eats when depressed, you'll probably end up gaining weight.

Also if gay men were so concerned about being alone, they wouldn't spend every night on Craigslist trying to hook up with 18 year olds, lets be real here. Its next to impossible to find commitment in the gay world, even when you're 40 and want to settle down.

Summertime Love

Reader

I don't like that this article insinuates that all/a large proportion of gay men are the same.

We are not all popping steroids and pumping iron at the gym hoping to pick up decent trade. What about those of us in committed, long-term relationships who like to keep fit for ourselves?

The ignorance.

Cain

I've seen enough fat gays tho.

Flawfree

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Originally posted by Reader

I don't like that this article insinuates that all/a large proportion of gay men are the same.

We are not all popping steroids and pumping iron at the gym hoping to pick up decent trade. What about those of us in committed, long-term relationships who like to keep fit for ourselves?

The ignorance.

IKR? Its stupid as hell. Its like saying straight men stop bothering to take care of themselves when they get married because they know they'll end up getting divorced eventually. Just because the two go hand in hand doesn't mean one causes the other.

Summertime Love

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Originally posted by Cain

I've seen enough fat gays tho.

Me too.

RainMan

this is the same myth and logic behind the idea that a girl has to be thin and pretty to get a husband or be a lonely spinster

yes there is a big bias placed on looks within the gay community but we arent any more shallow than the GP, in some cases i would say less so

RainMan

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Originally posted by Cain

I've seen enough fat gays tho.

+1 and they all seem to be in stable relationships whilst the gym toned good looking ones are all single and miserable

HUYPHAN

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Originally posted by RainMan

+1 and they all seem to be in stable relationships whilst the gym toned good looking ones are all single and miserable

NOW THIS IS

Reader

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Originally posted by HUYPHAN

NOW THIS IS

The gym-obsessed muscle marys are not the tea.

What about personality, humour? Looks and body are important of course (

) but that's not the be all and end all. This article is a mess tbh.

Cain

Nnnn the gym obsessed ones are usually butterfaces (no shade).

Jacob.

It's ridiculous how gay guys are expected to be underweight, like it's not even attractive.

Alejandrawrrr

I always felt that a bigger reason for the (seemingly) large portion of in-shape gays is because we, unlike straights, are physically attracted to our own gender... obviously. In short, besides wanting to be healthy, I know how ****ing sexy nice toned pecs are, so I want them for myself regardless of what my partner(s) look like

Another thing that contributes to it is that out of shape gays probably feel excluded and avoid coming out of the closet for fear they will be paid dust, so it just looks like more gays are in shape when it's really just those ones who felt comfortable enough in their skin to come out and/or be a part of the community.

EdwardB

BS.

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Mess

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Originally posted by Cain

I've seen enough fat gays tho.

There's a lot

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Originally posted by RainMan

+1 and they all seem to be in stable relationships whilst the gym toned good looking ones are all single and miserable

Clock the article!

@michael

I'm fat and alone so I guess the theory is correct!!!

Vertigo Stick

I'm slim, but it isn't by choice

I don't mind gaining weight, and I don't mind if my guy has a little weight (where it counts especially) either.

Gay guys are obsessed with weight and it is almost sickening. Bottoms, you need to eat to maintain that ass

MinajDragRace

Dont fatty foods make homosexual intercourse literally "messy" ?