I had to re-write three replies because you keep changing the title.
Men can get raped by women. You don't necessarily need to be held down to be raped; a woman can roofie a man just as easily as a man can a woman. If a woman drugs a man, takes him back home and then forces him into intercourse then that is rape.
and I don't want to hear anyone say "but if the man gets hard then he must want it" because that's just not true. Our nerves and nature are set to react when sexually simulated- even if we don't like it, it's hard to control those kinds of things.