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Originally posted by Confusion
For me, there's so many expectations in my family to reproduce and spread our family name, especially since there's only two of us boys. I also want my own child, with my genes. Therefore, I feel like the only route I should go is to marry a woman and grow my own family.
Is it possible?
EDIT: Lemme add on that while I've never been sexually attracted to a woman, I have been emotionally. There's that small part of me that wants to feel like the one in the relationship that takes care of the girl, that holds her hand and puts his hand around her waist. Kind of like very close friends rather than lovers.
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This is one of those things that you have to work out for yourself--getting advice of any sort won't solve it for you. That being said, what I hope you ultimately realize is that the only way you can have all the happiness that you are describing above is if you embrace yourself and can let yourself live the life you really want...not the one you think you should want.
If you have never been sexually attracted to a girl, there is no woman that will fulfill you. That isn't a bad thing...being gay is normal--less common, but normal all the same.
If you really want a family and insist on your children having your genes, you can make that happen with a surrogate--although any child that you adopt would obviously be able to carry on your name.
Once you fall in love with a guy you will realize that any thoughts of trying to force yourself to be with girls completely pales in comparison to the happiness that your boyfriend/husband/whatever brings you.
As far as the relationship dynamics that you are describing...you can be just as dominant or recessive or comforting towards a guy, and it will be appreciated and mean exactly the same thing. A gay relationship/marriage is not inferior to a straight one.
I hope that you stop hoping it is possible that you will find the perfect girl because it will keep you from moving forward. I assume that you will eventually work this out
