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Discussion: Do you interact differently with guys and girls?
Member Since: 11/13/2009
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Do you interact differently with guys and girls?
When you're having a conversation with someone, do you act differently (subconsciously) based on their gender? Personally, I've noticed when I'm talking to guys I'm more chill, mellow, laidback - calm, cool, and collected I guess. That go with the flow attitude. With girls, I'm more bubbly, outgoing, and talkative, trying to keep a conversation flowing and sincerely show interest and listen carefully to what they have to say. Do you do the same thing? Is it normal? Our brains work differently due to hormones, so I think this is just the way it is.
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Member Since: 11/26/2010
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Yeah, I'm relaxed when talking to girls and run out of topics when talking to guys. That explains why all my friends are girls.
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Member Since: 8/4/2012
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Depends on the people. There's been times where I've had really awkward conversations with girls and really great conversations with guys.
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Member Since: 11/11/2010
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Yes. I'm extremely outgoing around girls, and feel like I can be myself without worrying about what they might think about what I say or how they'll react. I'm able to be funny and joke/laugh about literally anything. Since I'm gay, I don't have any interest in impressing a girl. Girls tend to flock to me because of my personality, and most of my friends are girls.
With guys, I'm more quiet and guarded, depending on their personality. If it's somebody outgoing, I open up pretty fast and their gender doesn't stop me from acting like myself. If it's somebody shy or quiet, then I'm basically the same way. It's not so much that I'm trying to impress them, I just generally don't enjoy conversing with men.
Once I get to know somebody, regardless of their gender, I'm outgoing and never stop talking.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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It's easier to be relaxed around girls for me.
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Member Since: 11/13/2009
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Quote:
Originally posted by BlooRiverAnimal
Depends on the people. There's been times where I've had really awkward conversations with girls and really great conversations with guys.
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Yeah this.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by ManDown
Yes. I'm extremely outgoing around girls, and feel like I can be myself without worrying about what they might think about what I say or how they'll react. I'm able to be funny and joke/laugh about literally anything. Since I'm gay, I don't have any interest in impressing a girl. Girls tend to flock to me because of my personality, and most of my friends are girls.
With guys, I'm more quiet and guarded, depending on their personality. If it's somebody outgoing, I open up pretty fast and their gender doesn't stop me from acting like myself. If it's somebody shy or quiet, then I'm basically the same way. It's not so much that I'm trying to impress them, I just generally don't enjoy conversing with men.
Once I get to know somebody, regardless of their gender, I'm outgoing and never stop talking.
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Pretty much. It's generally harder for me to really warm up to other guys, if not impossible for some. It really depends on the person. I have had male co-workers and friends that I've gotten along with well, but for the most part all my closest friends have been female.
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Member Since: 5/7/2012
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I feel more comfortable around males when I first meet them then I do females. I have two older brothers and I'm closer to my dad so I just naturally feel more comfortable around males and because I'm not as girly and a lot of my interests are thought of as more 'masculine' I know how to interact with them better. I'm slowly getting better at interacting with girls though, but it's slow going 
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Member Since: 9/16/2011
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Back in high school when I had friends, I was pretty much the same with guys and with girls.
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Member Since: 9/1/2013
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Sometimes I find it more difficult to have male friends (I still have a few though, I just have more female friends). Guess it stems from my daddy issues... 
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Member Since: 5/29/2012
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Quote:
Originally posted by ManDown
Yes. I'm extremely outgoing around girls, and feel like I can be myself without worrying about what they might think about what I say or how they'll react. I'm able to be funny and joke/laugh about literally anything. Since I'm gay, I don't have any interest in impressing a girl. Girls tend to flock to me because of my personality, and most of my friends are girls.
With guys, I'm more quiet and guarded, depending on their personality. If it's somebody outgoing, I open up pretty fast and their gender doesn't stop me from acting like myself. If it's somebody shy or quiet, then I'm basically the same way. It's not so much that I'm trying to impress them, I just generally don't enjoy conversing with men.
Once I get to know somebody, regardless of their gender, I'm outgoing and never stop talking.
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Exactly this 
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Member Since: 1/11/2011
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I don't deal with that many women but I think I am the same with everybody. Now that I'm out anyway.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Member Since: 3/7/2012
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Sounds very stereo typically "gay", but all my close friends are girls. I don't know what it is, but I run out of things to say to guys, other than my boyfriend and my gay friends.
I find when talking to straight guys, they can sense I'm gay. I also don't connect with them on any level, I don't like any sports etc etc, and the guys where I live are very immature and say the dumbest things.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Not much, but with guys I never think about how I act and with girls I find myself holding back a little.
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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Quote:
Originally posted by BlooRiverAnimal
Depends on the people. There's been times where I've had really awkward conversations with girls and really great conversations with guys.
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This. tbh
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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I don't know it depends as to what their relation to me is. I'm more polite to women in general (which charms them off their feet, if they only knew) and keep it simple and to the point with other guys. Unless I like the guys, then I get a bit awkward/goofy or if I know it could go somewhere I'm pretty smooth and a bit cocky to keep the convo going
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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I have more guy friends but I realized I'm more myself around girls.
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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I'm more comfortable around girls but I'm really flirty with both genders.
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
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I'm so much more open and engaging in conversation when talking to girls.
I feel more relaxed, comfortable and the conversation almost always just flows naturally.
Talking to other guys is annoying, ironically.
I never know what to talk about or say... there's usually no connection unless they're gay or a free spirit. 
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