Do they ever work out? Constantly being paranoid that someone will find out would be really tough. I've tried it and it didn't work out for me. Discuss.

We were both open during my only gay relationship and it was amazing, but I guess that if one of the two partners is closeted, then it's a major problem. I loved holding hands and being cute in public.

I mean it's possible but I wouldn't date someone closeted/on the DL.

I wouldn't even think about dating a closet case.

I wouldnt know but i would not be here for it.

I think it only works if they are both closeted

If you're not ready to be out of the closet, you're not ready to be in a relationship.

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My first bf was a closeted bisexual guy and we never went out just us, we only hang out with more friends. We used to stay at my home all day after class, I was happy with him but he always was worried about what his parents could think if they knew he was dating a guy.

He's going to get married soon, and from what I've seen on FB he and his future wife look happy, I'm happy he found love in a girl. I know he loves her.

It worked fine for me, but it's not like we were acting like mates and I was around his house, meeting the rents.

It's only a problem if one is closeted and the other isn't tbh. Jealousy, etc

Even though I live in a gay friendly city of Southern California, I've noticed that a lot of guys in this valley want to be discreet, so apparently a lot are in the closet.

Even more annoying is some of the closeted guys have girlfriends or are married.

I would have a problem unless I really wanted D.

It wasn't for me.

It seems as though gays can be really picky sometimes, as shown above by totally wiping every closet case off their list.

Imagine everyone having a certain type on characteristics / mannerisms, gay / bisexual, top / bottom / versatile, no over 30.

Finding a gay guy is hard enough as it is. I can't imagine how shallow people find love these days.

this because if one is out he will want to be more open and the closet case/dl will want to hide it. I get so many closeted/dl guys that hit on me/message me that don't want to be out and I'm not here for that.

I think it may depend on age and your relationship boundaries. At this point in my life I could not date a guy in the closet.

How do you get to a guy if he's closeted? I like this boy and he's closeted (he's told a guy he liked him before and he's in musical theater ), is there any way to get through to him without him pulling an 'I'm straight card?' I'm out btw

Yeah, that's why most gay relationships are built on friendships