From personal experience - when I use something like "f*ggot" with my gay friends we all know we're obviously being tongue-in-cheek. If a straight person comes to me and calls me a f*ggot, even if it's not in an offensive manner, I'll find it at least strange.
Because there's a history, a context of straight people using this word to diminish gay people. I think with blacks and whites it's similar.
Hrm okay But I mean, the word in itself is offensive, so it would just be best not to say it at all... no?
And it's the same with Eminem saying f*ggot. He might believe this is a word that's ingrained in rap and society, but it's NOT cool to keep on associating it with negative stereotypes - and that's exactly what he does.
From personal experience - when I use something like "f*ggot" with my gay friends we all know we're obviously being tongue-in-cheek. If a straight person comes to me and calls me a f*ggot, even if it's not in an offensive manner, I'll find it at least strange.
Because there's a history, a context of straight people using this word to diminish gay people. I think with blacks and whites it's similar.
I remember the first time one of my white friends said n***a, I wasn't offended or angry but I was like surprised I guess.
When I was in the south, yt boys used to call each other n*gga all the time.
"N*gga I'm gonna stop by your house after school you better be there bitch"
My best friend said this exact sentence verbatim one time.
But I mean, the word in itself is offensive, so it would just be best not to say it at all... no? 
