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Discussion: Being gay - the hardest thing?
Member Since: 1/2/2014
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I feel being differently-abled is harder. I know someone who's deaf and gay. I can't imagine how challenging his life must be.
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The only hard thing about being gay for me is finding the right person,
who isn't just looking for sex.
But then again straight people go through that too, so idk.
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I agree. There's so much harder challenges out there than being gay, but I'm not discounting the struggles of the LGBT.
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Probably dating, for those of us who aren't confident/outgoing enough to use things like dating apps/social media for that. A woman can just go to the library, and if she is SERVING, a guy will call her beautiful and ask her out. While it happens with gays, it's much less often - in part because if you do that to the wrong person you can get killed  Not to mention the smaller dating pool in general/all the closeted men. Probably half the guys I've been hit on by were closeted and did it in such a 'discreet' way that it was offputting to me 
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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The hardest part for me is that I'm much more traditionally minded than most gay people, especially my age, and it's immensely difficult to find someone comparable for that reason. I would LOVE to get married, and it's ultimately my business, but in the back of my head it would pain me knowing not many people will treat a gay marriage or relationship seriously. I want kids as well, and I really want to give them a normal life, but in a society with such a bad mind of gay people, it appears a bit challenging.
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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The answer is acceptance period. If there was acceptance then 90 percent of these problems would go away.
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Originally posted by BudBud
The answer is acceptance period. If there was acceptance then 90 percent of these problems would go away.
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This tbh.
I will never understand how two men loving each other romantically affects the lives of the pressedT souls out there. Gay people doesn't affect the price of bread nor do we gain from your tax money so the hate is totally uncalled for and ****ing unfair because we didn't even ask to be homosexual. 
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Originally posted by iLays
Child. That cheap **** will have a bottom lookin like  when gettin tha pe3n stuck in. Wet Platinum>>> |
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Originally posted by Guý 4 Gáls
You probably should THANK all the people who say they are not into your race. While it hurts to be turned down for what you think is an unfair reason, it sucks more to be with people who are that shallow and close-minded. Do you seriously think you will stick around with that kind of people even if they don't shoot you down at first? You deserve to be with someone who is intelligent and appreciates you, not somebody who isn't and doesn't. Be thankful for all the red flags they are giving you because it means you will not waste your time.
It saddens me how some of us take such incidents as a reflection of our self worth when it actually is a reflection of THEIR self worth. (For the record, I don't condemn people's choices. I just find them kii enough to stay away from.)
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More people should look at it like this 
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Originally posted by Alejandrawrrr
Probably dating, for those of us who aren't confident/outgoing enough to use things like dating apps/social media for that. A woman can just go to the library, and if she is SERVING, a guy will call her beautiful and ask her out. While it happens with gays, it's much less often - in part because if you do that to the wrong person you can get killed Not to mention the smaller dating pool in general/all the closeted men. Probably half the guys I've been hit on by were closeted and did it in such a 'discreet' way that it was offputting to me |
Exactly this.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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Originally posted by Eaten By Lions
I'm so sorry.  |
Yeah, it was the worst. Talking about India by the way.
It got decriminalized in 2009. So many people were finally starting to come out, myself included. Then, a month ago the ruling got overturned.
What sucks the most is that people who were out publicly now need to be very cautious of what they do. It's the getting freedom and then having it snatched away again that gets to me the most.
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Can't kiss your boy friend in public like straights do. I know the society isn't ready for that yet, but it sucks when you wnat so bad to kiss him and you can't because you're in public. The rest is fine to me.
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Originally posted by NoaHx
Can't kiss your boy friend in public like straights do. I know the society isn't ready for that yet, but it sucks when you wnat so bad to kiss him and you can't because you're in public. The rest is fine to me.
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At least you have a boyfriend
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Originally posted by TheGreatMrY
At least you have a boyfriend |
Oh sis!! 
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Originally posted by NoaHx
Oh sis!! |
I saw that sis
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Originally posted by Cardinal_Luis
What's the hardest thing about being gay in your personal opinion? (obviously a thread for the gays)
For me, it is the stereotypes and stigmas that are in the gay world. I am 21, a top, and masculine yet overly sensitive, romantic, and respectful. I get ridiculous things like "how are you a top and sensitive!?" Or "romantic? Nobody got time fo daT!" It's like everybody just wants to penetrate and be penetrated, soulless and sh*t, ya know?
Hbu?  |
Tbh probably me too. I'm not a stereotypical "gay" so when I tell people they're shocked... making it harder to come out.
But f*ck it - i just come out anyway.
I don't like letting who I am and who I like hold me back. 
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For me, I feel like there is such a standard to live up to if you're gay, especially physically, so anytime I go to gay clubs, or events, or anything I completely scrutinize every detail of myself, and then I end up leaving because I feel like a complete failure as a gay person. I know that sounds absolutely ridiculous, and it probably has more to do with myself than being gay, but I never felt and acted that way until I started being more out. Who knows if that made any sense
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Originally posted by RicanoRuben
For me, I feel like there is such a standard to live up to if you're gay, especially physically, so anytime I go to gay clubs, or events, or anything I completely scrutinize every detail of myself, and then I end up leaving because I feel like a complete failure as a gay person. I know that sounds absolutely ridiculous, and it probably has more to do with myself than being gay, but I never felt and acted that way until I started being more out. Who knows if that made any sense |
I totally understand what you mean and I'm the same way.
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I also think the isolation is hard to deal with. I remember back when I wasn't out to my friends, I'd feel like an outsider whenever discussions about relationships and liking people came up. It felt difficult to relate and belong. All you wanted was to take part in the conversation but you never knew how that would end up. It makes you feel uncomfortable and depressed.
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