That's fine sis, but it basically proves our point even further. Though I would point out that I've actually heard quite a bit of homophobia from fellow blacks and other minorities (in addition to the standard southern white racist bigots like Mr duck dynasty). Black families can actually be quite judgmental and hateful towards their own kind when it goes against their religion.

This is such a great thread. Thank you guys for being mature [for once] and not getting this shut down. It could really help a lot of people cope with the many mental/emotional issues presented by being lgbt.

I'm kind of in the same boat, but my parents found out earlier this year because my dad went through my Facebook messages in my BEYONCÉ era . They like to think it's a phase but we don't talk about it anymore

1. Having to "come out" and explain to you family members your sexuality, and may even have to face rejection, shame, and humiliation by these same people you call family.

2. Being judged/looked at differently because you like the same sex. You could be the nicest person on earth, but because of your sexuality, they'll still treat you like ****.

3. Having the bible thrown in your face every time a conversation about homosexuality comes up.

4. People asking "where's your girlfriend" when you're a gay male, or "where's your boyfriend" if you're a lesbian.

5. People saying Bisexuality doesn't exist; or people saying that only women can be bisexual, and that bisexual guys are just gay men.

Like...all of this is just ridiculous.

No problem .

My extended family.... My mother alone has 9 siblings, and overall I have over 13 aunts and uncles, and along with their children.... It would be a drain of my energy telling everyone. Out of that bunch though, I have an uncle who's gay and an auntie that's a lesbian, so that makes it a bit better for me but I don't really plan on telling any of them unless they ask. I don't feel the need to bring it up unless someone asks me.

I told my immediate family though, and they reacted ok in my opinion. My dad's reaction was rather...interesting though. I've told only a few friends and they don't even care, so it's all good imo people will find out later in life when I get my boyfriend anyway

Oh no, I wasn't trying to go against your point. I KNOW that minority race gays have it harder, I just didn't appreciate how this thread became a game of who has it harder. I live in California, the valley area, and while I see a lot of support, I see a lot of hate, all from straight white guys. Usually older ones, the younger ones are "hicks." However, I've seen a lot of straight supporters in my age range lately and that makes me really feel like progress is happening. I think social media has a lot to do with that.

Another thing would be the fact that I can't openly show my love to my boyfriend in public without receiving stares. I can't hold his hand, kiss him, hug him, or even feed him without somebody staring and making some mart remark. Its gotten to a point where I just stopped doing it completely.

- Growing up in the church. Having to deal with 'passive aggressive' friends who smile in your face & then post anti-gay Facebook statuses.

- Gay jokes get so stale. My brother turned to me the other day & said "Hey, no homo, but this Jimmy John's mayonnaise is SO good!"

- Being a part of a right wing, super conservative family who are nice & supportive, but don't "agree with my lifestyle"... as if being gay completely sums up my lifestyle...

- Opinions from straight people on how easy/hard it is to be gay. Being lumped in with "traditional" gay stereotypes.

- Believing in monogamous, long-term relationships when it seems like every guy around you is only interested in having quick sex with the next hot guy. Gay men can be really cold & calculated, or at least my first bf was.

- (continued from that)... The idea that I'll have to be with several guys before I find the right match... or even worse, never finding something long-term & being one of those lonely older gay men desperate for a date. It's so scary.

- Being the awkward elephant in the room with all of this political mess lately.

- The dog-eat-dog atmosphere of the gay community at times. Everything feels like a competition sometimes... to have the best body, the most money, the most awards, etc... It can be draining.

I think I have a lot that I need to work through, probably just as a result of my family/my religious upbringing/what I've experienced so far, etc. Deep down, all I really want is love in a committed relationship. And that's the hardest part of "love" for everyone, I think... but I also think it's much harder for a gay man to find that.

omg it will not be that bad
still better than Sharkeisha tho

Yeah I'm just having a little bit of fun Plus he lives in a different state so he can't touch me

You're in Houston too?

what if he suddenly appears in front of your door with a gun jk
I'm still waiting till I'm independent financially to come out I need to be able to feed myself and pay my rent in case they kick me out of the house

Dealing with homophobic family members

Um...they were simply reflecting on the question. No one made it a competition until you came in denouncing the individual experiences of others. It's sad to hear that the majority of homophobia comes from straight white men, but how does that negate the racial struggles poc find themselves in?

Like.

not him hanging onto his phone instead of fighting back

Has anyone ever just laughed at the label "straight acting"?? Lmfao so f*cking ridiculous.

Like these gay for pay stars manipulated gay culture into thinking this is the epitome of a "real gay man" without any inch of femininity. It's utter stupidity.

I also never understood the constant hate of bottoms from tops when, well, bottoms cultivate gay culture, & maybe that's the main reason for the hate, but I highly doubt it. As I've said in a previous post, I celebrate femininity and I love watching it, seeing it, observing it. Why hate another half you literally need as a "top"?It's like straight men hating women for wanting to be penetrated. Makes absolutely no sense but maybe I'm the only one who sees it that way?

These labels really bother me btw but i gotta use em to get my point across lol but point is, I would and could never hate bottoms for being simply a bottom, feminine (preferred) or not. Like, I hope I go to bottom heaven when I pass.